Comments on: Onely and Overweight http://onely.org/2008/08/19/onely-and-overweight/ Fresh perspectives on living solo. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:53:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Being Happy. « A beautiful dream http://onely.org/2008/08/19/onely-and-overweight/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 13:23:16 +0000 http://onely.wordpress.com/?p=546#comment-99 [...] was reading this Onely post (as you can see by my mega-comment) and thinking about what it takes to be happy. [...]

]]> By: Shannon http://onely.org/2008/08/19/onely-and-overweight/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:25:13 +0000 http://onely.wordpress.com/?p=546#comment-98 i really hate the fat vs thin debate. I am lucky to be a size 10 here in Australia (I think that’s a 6 in the US.. maybe an 8) and I have tiny narrow hips, no waist and big boobs (which makes me a lollipop according to Trinny and Susannah). This is thankfully my natural shape – I eat healthy and I exercise only a little, just walking each day.
I think the problems arise when people try and be different from what they are naturally. If you exercised every day and ate well and found yourself to be still large, be happy. But if you are obese because someone in highschool stole your lunch money and beat you up, maybe you need to work on something there.
Same with skinny people – if you are naturally twig thin (like my mother) and you are happy in yourself, great. But if you are skinny because you smoke crack all day and only eat if you’re going to burn off twice as many calories as you consume then there are some issues.
It’s the same with being single. If you are single because you’re quite happy like that, then boo yeah, welcome in! But if you are single because you are some creepy stalker whose trying desperately to NOT be single, well you’re gonna be single for a very long time and please stop eyeing off my brother.
What people need to learn though, whether regarding single-dom or weight, is that social pressures are NOT the be all and end all. If you listen to people who say “Oh my god, she’s fat and single” and you go work your butt off and start dating this lovely guy you’re going to come back to those people and go “Hey, look at me now! I’m skinny and I have a boyfriend” and they are going to say “Oh my god, she’s got ugly shoes..” It’s a never ending cycle. You can only ever please yourself. And that’s the only person who really matters anyway.

Wow. another 50 words and I’d have a novel… sorry :)

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