Comments on: Deconstructing Facebook

By: Onely

Onely — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:36:32 +0000

Thanks SAA30! I actually am considering closing my whole account and starting a completely new one, for various reasons. Not under a new name or anything like that–I just want to restart the whole friend-and-photo accumulation process anew, now that I have experience with the facebook dynamic and know what/who I want and don’t want. Given that a number of my close friends are very active on facebook and far less active on the phone or email, I sort of feel I have to embrace it. It’s convenient in many ways as long as you don’t let it control you or your emotions. (Easier to say than do!!! I have been tempted to friend my ex’s, but so far have resisted. . . I will resist more strongly after your story! )

Christina

By: singleandalmost30

singleandalmost30 — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 00:23:50 +0000

This post was dead on!! I recently deleted my facebook account because I couldn’t deal with all the extra crap.

I felt pressured to accept friend requests from co-workers, folks I’d grown up with i.e. elementary, junior high and high school friends whom I hadn’t seen or spoken to in over 10 years, and grad school classmates. I also befriended exes, even though I shouldn’t have, because we definitely not on platonic levels.

Basically, facebook was more hassle than it was worth…again, great post and I’m really enjoying your blog!!

By: Nelly00

Nelly00 — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:06:28 +0000

The whole time I was in a relationship, I left the status blank. But I changed it to single when the relationship ended. Oddly enough, I changed it to bravely face the shame I felt at being one of the few single friends in my circle.

I’m lucky that I have coupled and single friends who are more progressive than I am about my own status. I’m the first person to always point a finger at myself and wonder, “what is wrong with her?”

In a way, changing my status to single was meant to answer that question for myself and anyone else wondering. “Not a damn thing.”

By: Trauma Queen

Trauma Queen — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:58:01 +0000

I think status is overrated – i always leave the status cell blank in all these networking sites cos i don’t want the world to know if i’m single or not – it’s personal to me. even if i got married id leave the status field blank.

as for adding old schoolfrends – I only do it cos i need more neighbours in Farmville…im a facebook nerd and cant help it really

By: Onely

Onely — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 02:50:01 +0000

I hear that! Perhaps I should put my semi-feral cat down on my page. It’s complicated. He loves me, but he pees in my basement.
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