Heteronormaholes On the Prowl! Reach out to your congress reps! February 21, 2009Posted by Onely in As If!, Take action.
Tags: being single, benefits of marriage, feral cats, fiction, marriage mythology, national healthy marriage resource center, no friends, Rachel's Musings
A couple years ago, I fed, spayed, and removed an abcess from the tail of a very scared little tabby kitten whose mama had disappeared. I found a home for Fiction with my neighbors, to whom she is a delight. She also comes by every day for snuggles and I’m sure her purr therapy has had added years on to my life.
So why isn’t there a massive ad campaign to encouraging people to improve their well-being by saving and socializing feral cats? Because this hobby isn’t right or comfortable for everyone! DUH. So why is the federal government funding an ad campaign to promote the hobby of marriage? Because the government is Severely Duh-Impaired, that’s why:
Rachel’s post alerted Onely to the federally funded campaign to encourage marriage, as described in this USA Today article. According to the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, which is spearheading the campaign in response to falling marriage rates, “Young people want ‘happily ever after,’ but lack skills to make marriage work.”
Um, so why not explore some different version of ‘happily ever after’? Because according to NHMRC, apparently none exists. Marriage is not only a panacaea, but the only panacaea (oh man, am I an excellent speller or what?).
Here’s an easy way to find your Congressperson and write them an email directly! Rachel has some good talking points you could include in your note. Here is how I commented on the USA Today piece. Look, I have no friends!
Onely (0 friends, send message) wrote:4m ago
I am astounded that everyone (uh, the government) is automatically assuming that falling marriage rates are a problem. I agree with the article: “Whether or not it constitutes a problem depends on broader, and contested, propositions about marriage in relation to the common good.” Absolutely. And if you read the studies correctly, marriage has no implicit value for the common good, except for the artificial privileges we assign to it. Marisa Martineau is right that the government needs to focus on “the disparities between married and unmarried people” and ask not how we can get more people to marry, but how we can achieve parity and social support for all varieties of family units and single people. Marriage has certainly not proven itself to be the way to accomplish this.