Tag-team Blogging March 24, 2009Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities, Secret Lives of the Happily Single, single and happy, We like. . ..
Tags: blogging as a team, importance of friendship, single friends, single people, we love being single
When I told a friend of mine about Onely, he said, “Does anyone ever mention how funny it is that there are two of you writing a blog together about being single?” No, no one ever does. In fact (says Christina), the irony hadn’t even occurred to Lisa or I until that friend of mine mentioned it.
And it is ironic–on the surface. While Lisa and I are jumping up and down on our respective couches yelling about the benefits of solo living, behind the scenes we’re running Onely sort of like a marriage: we are a small team, bound together through common interests and goals, but also through logistics (shared copyrights and creative license, server bills, etc). Like in a (good) marriage or standard partnered romantic relationship, each of us has a built-in safety net in our co-blogger, someone to cover our butts when we’re too sick, tired, or busy to care for the blog. If I have a crazy week, Lisa writes extra posts and monitors the stats and comments. If she gets bogged down by real life, then I cover for her in the cyberspace. So yes, it’s kind of ironic that our blog empowering the single life needs two of us to keep it up and running.
But if you think about it, a singles blog run by friends is really an apt metaphor for the broader life experience of a single in today’s world. Because we don’t have a Seepie (Sex-and-everything-else-partner), some daily life chores are just tougher for us (here’s an example). So single people tend to have and rely on larger networks of friends and extended family to help us take up the slack and batten down the hatches as we sail through the storms and lulls of life. (Or something like that–my latest writing teacher loathed my metaphors: too bad for him!)
That said, all the other singles blogs we’ve seen so far (check out some of our favorites on the blogroll and in our Some Like It Single series) are run by individual bloggers, and they all maintain great sites with regular, interesting. What do you one-person bloggers out there think when you imagine yourselves co-blogging?
Perhaps the activity of co-blogging isn’t really the subject of this post after all, but more the importance of friendship and extended family and the unique ways we maintain and strengthen those ties as single people. Before beginning this blog (says Lisa), Christina and I had been friends for six years but only talked on the phone once every two or three weeks (at most), and we had only seen each other a few times since she moved from DC to the midwest. Today, we send each other multiple emails per day and usually talk on the phone at least once every week. Shortly after starting the blog, we even took a vacation together!
Our co-blogging represents for us, I think, one of the many ways in which friends can and do enrich one another’s lives and provide essential support for single people (a theme we’ve ruminated on before, here and here). And it’s just icing on the cake that we have a whole community of readers who get to partake. :)
Copious Readers, which activities do you find most valuable to maintaining your friendships and/or family ties?
— Lisa and Christina