Comments on: The Sex Post! http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/ Fresh perspectives on living solo. Sat, 02 Jun 2012 00:39:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Animal Sex: What it can teach us about heteronormativity « Onely: Single and Happy http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1404 Tue, 02 Jun 2009 04:26:57 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=1511#comment-1404 [...] people when they have so-called “abnormal” sexual desires or lifestyles (ranging from wanting to have sex but not a relationship, for example, to feeling indifferent about sex altogether). The thing is, most of us probably grew [...]

]]> By: Fitzroyalty http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1374 Thu, 28 May 2009 09:23:41 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=1511#comment-1374 The men who doubt women can want sexual relationships without all the traditional committment have usually been burned by women who said they could then changed their minds. For me the thing is to talk and talk some more, because most people just don’t talk about what they want and then are surprised when their wants are not magically met by their partner. But then I’m apparently another rarity – a man who talks about his feelings ;-)

]]> By: trauma queen http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1367 Wed, 27 May 2009 18:24:56 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=1511#comment-1367 most interesting them comments. gives me a new perspective a cross-border culture as well :)

an yes i do agree that men these days tend to be the new women- they r the ones who seem to want to get married and all that. I’ve noticed it among me friends.

]]> By: Lauri http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1363 Wed, 27 May 2009 14:41:02 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=1511#comment-1363 Stephanie, I completely agree with you! I wish, however, that it were easier to just like/love someone without all the external issues that force you to “define” your relationship at predetermined points (diamond rings, timelines, biological clocks, nagging relatives, mortgages, etc etc). I like to just roll with things and see how they go- if we end up just hooking up a few times, great. If we end up moving in together, great. The problem is that it is so hard to find other people who don’t give in to the pressure! Most people I date either want a “relationship” or they want “just friends with benefits” or they want X, Y, or Z. Why not just be with people and find out what was meant to be?

In Lisa’s situation, the guy seems to want to (or thinks he should) follow a prescribed path, so I think honesty is definitely the best policy, and the only way to let it all flow and evolve the way it naturally should.

]]> By: onely http://onely.org/2009/05/25/the-sex-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1361 Wed, 27 May 2009 04:11:14 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=1511#comment-1361 Stephanie — these are truly excellent points! I myself am pretty sure that I don’t want to be in a serious relationship, now or anytime in the near future — but I would not push away a relationship if I really enjoyed being in it and did not feel pressured to become serious (by which I mean cohabitation and/or marriage). I completely agree that being open is important. But knowing what I want (to stay functionally single) is also very important to me personally.

– L

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