Comments on: Sex, So What?

By: Onely

Onely — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 23:36:38 +0000

Here at Onely one of our favorite things is to make up wierd names for stuff!! = )

By: sarasvati3

sarasvati3 — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 20:42:21 +0000

I love when you put these great names to things I’ve felt for so long! I’m totally an Indifferent Celibate. When I’ve been coupled in the past, sex was nice and I enjoyed it but I haven’t had any for (I’ve kind of lost count but I *think*) 4-5 years and I really couldn’t care less. Sometimes when I’ve had a bit to drink, I think about how it would be nice to have it but then I sober up and get over that. lol I’m on anti-depressants though and have been since before I first had sex so I also don’t know if this is a medicated indifference or if I’d be this way anyway. I was thinking this is a great and inevitably important discussion for onelies and I’m glad I found this post!!

By: Onely

Onely — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 22:43:26 +0000

“After a certain age, most of the women available for sex have problems left behind from previous husbands/lovers (baggage?) Nothing contributes to well-being like unsnarling a financial mess or fatherless children. And this tends to make such women incel becuse men avoid them.”

I read the Wikipedia article because I wasn’t sure if this statement was a paraphrase of that article or a statement from sound-man. I didn’t see any such point of view in the article (although the article was problematic on many levels, specifically because it didn’t address the issue of all the incels who are only incel because they feel a social pressure to pair up, not necessarily because the actually want to pair up). So I’m assuming this statement is coming from sound-man.

Not all, and not even most, of older women necessarily or unequivocably have “baggage”. And I’d have to assume that as far as baggage goes, an equal proportion of men have it too, so that should be mentioned.

Christina

By: sound-man

sound-man — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 13:33:03 +0000

The wizened authors of the Wiki on incel think you only need to get laid, and voila! instant well-being. After a certain age, most of the women available for sex have problems left behind from previous husbands/lovers (baggage?) Nothing contributes to well-being like unsnarling a financial mess or fatherless children. And this tends to make such women incel becuse men avoid them,.

By: Onely

Onely — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 22:40:01 +0000

This brings up an interesting topic–can people be asexual, homosexual, or hetero at different times in their lives? I’ve heard that we’re all bi to some degree; perhaps it’s more accurate to say that we are all bi-a-sexual. Needless to say (but I’m going to anyway), these aspects of ourselves are often squished by common (heteronormative) culture, so we just don’t see them as often.