Comments on: Sex, So What?

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:14:10 +0000

Great post! Personally I’m an Indifferent Celibate but I think I understand celibacy more than I understand people who actively want sex with others. I’m not unhealthy, didn’t have a rigid Christian upbringing and haven’t had many bad experiences… I just don’t ‘get it’ and will go for long times very happily without ever once having sex. Unfortunately… I’m in a relationship (I personally don’t think sex and pairing go together) so this causes a few difficulties.

I just sometimes wish that I understood what people see in it. My partner is a good lover, and I don’t hate sex… I just don’t want it enough, and thanks to the masses, this makes me feel like I’m not normal anymore…

By: Rachel’s Musings » The Challenge of Sex

Rachel’s Musings » The Challenge of Sex — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 00:52:10 +0000

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By: Singlutionary

Singlutionary — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:10:52 +0000

I love sex. But I also love my solitude and not having gross men in my bed. I would love to find a not-gross man with a very decadent bed and have regular hot, high-thread-count sex with him.

So lately I’m a volcel, I guess. I feel the same way about getting laid as I do about dating: not worth the time or energy. Of course, if a fantastic lover were to come into my life I wouldn’t don a chastity belt and throw away the key.

Being a person who is really into sex and kinda a natural horndog, I have had to find ways to cope with my volcel-ism. I throw myself into other activities and redirect all my sexual energy into exercise (healthy) or eating (unhealthy) or replacing toilets (thrifty). And I spend a good $200/yr at Good Vibrations or Babeland (translation, I masturbate a lot with top notch novelty toys until I bust out the motor and almost destroy an entire planet with battery usage). I live vicariously through craigslist personals, especially casual encounters. And, as time goes on, I pass through the “god, I’m dying here” phase and the constant distracting, aching desire fades. Until it returns and I start the cycle all over again.

Do I need sex. Yes. I am not prepared to go the rest of my life without sex. But right now I would rather go without. When I master my own boundaries and my own desires and find an appropriate sexual partner (one is most likely enough at one time–I would definitely max out at 2) (and no, I don’t need to share domestic space with said lover) humping will become my main source of recreation.

By: trauma queen

trauma queen — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 18:18:16 +0000

aaargh so many thought i have been thinking for so long now!!

indians tend to be conservative, and so sex is really not such a big deal. In fact a lot of my married friends also wonder if they ‘should’ be doing it more often…at the end of the day, it really is all about what YOU want.

But I suppose pop culture certainly makes all of us feel that we lack hormones or something And that goes in line with what Christina said about “Maybe if I had a full-functioning physique, I would not be an IndiffeCel. ” or maybe not – why even entertain that thought and thus fall pray to the hype

Well I sure feel good. This is a global phenomenan.

By: Animal Sex: What it can teach us about heteronormativity « Onely: Single and Happy

Tue, 02 Jun 2009 04:27:06 +0000

[...] desires or lifestyles (ranging from wanting to have sex but not a relationship, for example, to feeling indifferent about sex altogether). The thing is, most of us probably grew up with our parents teaching us about the [...]