Onely Fights Office Singlism! Kind of! July 15, 2009Posted by Onely in As If!, Everyday Happenings, Heteronormativity, Just Saying., Secret Lives of the Happily Single, single and happy.
Tags: office chatter, responsible single people, single parents, singlism in the workplace, workplace singles discrimination
I forget the context of our conversation, but at one point my coworker mentioned that single people don’t have any responsibilities. Now, before you send out the tar-and-feathering mob, loyal Copious Readers, let me say that this is one of my favorite coworkers and he has a knack for making out-of-place, over-the-top generalizations. But still, I felt the need to correct his statement.
“Single have responsibilities!” I said. “I have a mortage. And. . . and. . . a cat.” I winced. The C word seldom helps in a singles advocacy argument. But in the moment, I couldn’t think of any other responsibilities! Because to be honest, I am so enamoured of my independence that the feeling of freedom sometimes overshadows my to-do list. But Lisa rattled off my responsibilities to me later, in an email. She said we have “pretty much the same responsibilities as everyone else!” But for once I disagree with my intrepid co-blogger. I think if we look carefully at the list, we see that singles actually have more responsibilities than married people (and here we’re not even talking about the responsibilities of single parents)!
Stuff Singles Have To Do:
job (funny that my coworker missed this one)
insurance shopping (singles have fewer options and pay more for them)
taxes (singles pay more)
bills (see “insurance shopping” and “taxes”)
health (see “insurance shopping”)
friends and family maintenance (singles often have wider networks that need maintaining)
vehicle maintenance (only one car so if that goes in the shop, get out your bicycle shorts)
home and apartment upkeep (I’ve finally accepted that no one but me is going to waterproof the damn deck)
food (ok, on this one I think singles have it easier–if we want to eat kidney beans straight out of the can, we do)
and of course pets (you know, all those cats!)
So it’s all how you spin it, right?
Copious Readership, if you are single, what are your responsibilities? If you are married or coupled, how did that change your responsibilities?