Selfish or Spot On? The Single Person’s Registry July 21, 2009Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Food for Thought, Your Responses Requested!.
Tags: marrying myself, sex and the city, single woman's registry, singles registries, too many shoes
This summer, the topic of weddings has come up repeatedly here at Onely, and, since much of our discussion has centered on the negative aspects of the matrimonial tradition, it seems appropriate to conclude the season on a more positive note and consider the possibility of reclaiming parts of the tradition for ourselves.
If one decides not to wed, is it appropriate to throw a wedding for oneself?
In one memorable episode of Sex and the City, Carrie famously did. And some time ago, Christina found a company that specializes in the single woman’s registry. At a separate site, Halfbakery.com (a site for half-baked ideas?), someone suggested that the newly divorced create a registry where friends can buy all the goods that the ex took.
But SATC’s Carrie only registered for a single pair of shoes. And the Well-Heeled Society’s premise not only eliminates single men from the equation, but the blog seems immeasurably obsessed with shoes, which not only promotes the stereotype that all women are obsessed with fashion, but also ignores the supposedly “practical” reasons for setting up (wedding) registries in the first place. The “divorce registry” seems truly half-baked, considering that this would ostensibly mean that friends are buying two sets of gifts — one for the wedding, one for the divorce.
So maybe we have yet to perfect the anti-tradition. In fact, I’m kind of enamored of the idea – even if the New York Times called the it “tacky” and “greedy” (kudos to Feministing for defending us singles!).
But I’m curious what you think.
Copious readers, please weigh in: Would you ever throw a party to celebrate your “marriage” to yourself? What would you register for?