“True Forced Loneliness” = Crazy, Creepy, and Sad Sad Sad! August 6, 2009
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: george sodini, gym gunman, hate crimes, la fitness, misogyny, pittsburgh shooting, roissy in dc, true forced loneliness
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If you’ve been watching the news, you’ve heard about the tragic and unsettling shooting of three women at a Pittsburgh gym by George Sodini. And now the media is digging up all kinds of evidence that illustrates not only that Sodini was mentally ill (duh), but also deeply misogynistic (check out this excellent article from Jezebel). Indeed, Sodini apparently maintained a blog, two Web sites and even posted YouTube videos that substantiate just how much he hated women, and this other article (also from Jezebel) makes a convincing case for why/how we should understand Sodini’s actions, as well as other recent mass murders, as a hate crime against women.
And if you start digging, Sodini’s complaints – that women are to blame for why he led such a miserable life – parallel complaints made by other misogynists, such as Roissy in DC, and hate movements, such as the (literally insane) group, True Forced Loneliness. According to Cracked.com, TFL is:
a budding subculture of men claiming that society was forcing them to be lonely. Three leaders had emerged through daily videos where they ramble on about their cause. Their names are Steve, Bill, and Dwayne.
To be fair, this sounds like an extremely small subculture, but with such violent undertones (and consequences), this series of links sends chills up my spine. As a woman, and as a feminist, I am profoundly sickened by this “movement.” But this also troubles me as a single person who advocates for public recognition of the “happiness” that I associate with my single life:
IT IS SO SAD to imagine these men feeling miserable and lonely because they are single — and IT IS INFURIATING to imagine these men blaming women for their situation!
And the rest? The rest makes me want to puke. Happy Friday, everyone. 
– L
FUCK YOU ALL!!!!
No, thank you.
Lovely, Onely!
hello everyone,
i don’t know why people think they have all the answers and think that their opinion is fact and makes them correct and all others wrong. i can understand where Onely is coming from but let me say this, as a man and as a single man who has been single for quite some time; It’s not singly MY OWN FAULT that i’m single. while i don’t know exactly the deal about the shooting, i can say that for me, to see all my male friends get someone(all of them and i have over 10 male friends who are involved with a woman of their own) and to see me at 32 not having a relationship because i am not tall enough for any woman and i’m 5’9 or i’m not black enough(in certain areas) or too black(in others) or not slim and fit or i’m not big enough or whatever to the point where i have gone over a decade without ANY kind of girlfriend or relationship and the funny thing is that I DO make the first move and i’m very charming and hilarious and somewhat handsome but it’s not enough. People(not just women but definitely not just men) let tv and music influence their ideals and now their ideals are impossible to become. You, as a woman and as a feminist can only see it through those eyes can’t you? I can’t pretend to know how it feels to be a woman but don’t believe that you have a golden pass at it being difficult to live in this world because you are a woman and that being a man isn’t all that hard or being rejected is part of being a man. have women ever been turned down a job? didn’t get the acting gig they auditioned for? didn’t get into a certain college of choice? so they get rejected too but the only difference is when a woman gets rejected, if she’s not used to it, she goes crazy. well for some men, after soooo many times of being rejected and it seems like no matter what you do NO ONE will love you, you just lose it. but again, i’m not condoning the violent act committed but i do believe that it’s bigger than just some men who whine and complain that they can’t get dates and get laid. If you think that you got the world in your favor and you’ve done nothing other be born and you just happened to be born beautiful or handsome, what makes you think that a. you deserve such favor b. that the favor is truly in your favor? I mean, if we can keep it to where most men commit suicide then that’s one way to reduce population. if we can get it to where women only have 1 child or where men only date women with kids already and not have children of their own with that said woman, then that’s another way of reducing population and you gotta remember, this stuff doesn’t have to be done all at once and full on, it takes time but you gotta know that this stuff is happening. I don’t have a problem being wrong if i am wrong about stuff but i’ve been single for over a decade and it’s not entirely my fault. I’ve got fat friends and they found someone, i got short friends and they found someone and i’ve got ugly friends and they found someone so what is my excuse? what about the people who don’t want to go to bars and clubs? you mean to tell me I had more fun as a teen and a college student than i will as an adult and there’s nothing for grown ups to do that will allow them to meet and mingle without the alpha male sickness being pumped into our brains as truth? anyway, that’s my all over the place response to this post because you as a woman and a feminist was sad and upset and you don’t even consider the plight that men go through because they can’t get a woman and they have to keep living without one while all others have one. try being unemployed for a long time and hang with people during happy hour when they all get off their jobs and meet for drinks, you will feel left out. try doing that for months and see if you can keep alive before you decide to rob someone because you don’t have a friggin job and you need to eat or pay bills or whatever. or you just need to be working because you like working. just saying before you categorize this group as a bunch of losers who can’t get a girlfriend, consider why they can’t and not just them and it’s not just a small group, the voice is just small atm. i’m out.
One thing that might help is if you start using paragraphs.
Lol yeah I did kind of go on a long rant there. Criticism appreciated and it was funny, thanks for the heads up.
Not criticism, “constructive suggestion.” = ) Thanks for sharing though!
You’re egotistical, insensitive and unethical. Just wanted to let you know.
Thanks! = )
Wow, what hatred! I guess that I fit the label, rejected in high school ,no dates, no prom, no social activities, just figured out that I was going to be alone most of the time.
Nobody’s fault, just my understanding that I was so bad at this that I needed to be doing something else with my time. God gave me a great life and I am busy with charitable work which keeps me very busy and is very rewarding. It is just a life without women in it.
People were more mad at me for “dropping out” than they were
for me getting rejected all the time. I guess I never, ever understood
that game and am probably better off for it. I do not understand all
of the hatred for just finding another way to live.
since women choose 100% of the time the man they will date,have sex with and associate with tell me who are supposed to you blame?