As a single guy, and have been for years, I have been out with women, had my fair share of flings, short-term relationships (a month here or there), but ultimately always end up single, mainly because I get bored, the girls I’ve met simply haven’t held my attention (before you ask yes I have had long term relationships when I was younger). My most natural state at this point in my life (I’m 28) is to be single, when I sit down and seriously think about what I want I realise, that despite the pressure to find someone I’m actually very happy being single at this stage.

Every now and then I get that itch and I’ll go out, meet a few girls, but it often reminds me why I’m actually happy alone rather than as half of a couple. I have good friends, a good family and while, quite often in fact, the conversation turns to why I’m still single the answer is the same “I’m happy where I am, I’m not in any rush to accept any old woman in to my life simply to be in a relationship, and should someone come along who can hold my attention then great, until then this is where I am”.

So to answer the various stereotypes:
1 – I am definitely NOT a workaholic, I do my hours (9>>5.30) and I go home, in fact I explicitly stated in my interview that unless I screw up, or they pay me overtime, I’m not putting in extra hours. I don’t often screw up and they don’t like paying overtime, so that’s that.
2 – I have an active social life, I see friends a couple of times a week and am part of a sports club where I train at least twice a week.
3 – I can get dates when I go out to get them
4 – I’m not a loner psychopath (I would say that…)

I’m just happy being able to go home, shut the door, and if I want to be an anti-social mardy git then I can be, on the other hand if I want to go out I can, I don’t have to worry about another person.

I wasn’t forced into this situation, at the end of my last relationship I decided to focus on my career and build that up, after a couple of years I looked up and realised, actually I quite like this place.