Comments on: What’s Wrong With Wanting to be Unsingle? http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/ Fresh perspectives on living solo. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:58:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Singlutionary http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/comment-page-1/#comment-3138 Singlutionary Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:28:26 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2191#comment-3138 I just wrote a post on this wonderful topic. Is it possible to be a satisfied single and still open to a relationship? I think that is what I am and have always been. I am more open to a relationship at this very moment because I have an excellent prospect. Otherwise, I think I would be more excited about further fulfilling my single life! I just wrote a post on this wonderful topic. Is it possible to be a satisfied single and still open to a relationship? I think that is what I am and have always been. I am more open to a relationship at this very moment because I have an excellent prospect. Otherwise, I think I would be more excited about further fulfilling my single life!

]]> By: Simone Grant http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/comment-page-1/#comment-3028 Simone Grant Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:39:49 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2191#comment-3028 Wow, I so needed to read this today. First let me echo Jenn's thank you for writing this. I think it's so important that we can have smart, rational conversations on this topic. I'm single and I see that as a choice. When I look back at my dating life I know there were a couple of relationships that I could have worked at made work. I chose not to. To not make the compromises to make those relationships work because having a partner/husband wasn't that important to me. And I'm happy with that decision and happy to stay single. And yet, there are many people who will not recognize that as a legitimate decision. They see me as a failure. Anyway, just as I'm entitled to make whatever choices I want, I'd hope for the same for every woman. Feminism is about choices, not having others choose for us. Some women will probably choose to pursue marriage. For them I wish nothing but happiness, if that's what they want and it's not out of fear or pressure or duty. Wow, I so needed to read this today. First let me echo Jenn’s thank you for writing this. I think it’s so important that we can have smart, rational conversations on this topic.

I’m single and I see that as a choice. When I look back at my dating life I know there were a couple of relationships that I could have worked at made work. I chose not to. To not make the compromises to make those relationships work because having a partner/husband wasn’t that important to me. And I’m happy with that decision and happy to stay single.

And yet, there are many people who will not recognize that as a legitimate decision. They see me as a failure.

Anyway, just as I’m entitled to make whatever choices I want, I’d hope for the same for every woman. Feminism is about choices, not having others choose for us. Some women will probably choose to pursue marriage. For them I wish nothing but happiness, if that’s what they want and it’s not out of fear or pressure or duty.

]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/comment-page-1/#comment-3022 Onely Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:08:36 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2191#comment-3022 Are the happy marriages the ones arranged by the parents, or are they marriages where people chose their own mates but panicked and said "ok this person will have to do", or are they marriages where the two people were actually (apparently) in love? I have heard that arranged marriages often work out quite well, because they are not blown out of proportion in the beginning like a lot of romantic-matches are. ?? CC Are the happy marriages the ones arranged by the parents, or are they marriages where people chose their own mates but panicked and said “ok this person will have to do”, or are they marriages where the two people were actually (apparently) in love? I have heard that arranged marriages often work out quite well, because they are not blown out of proportion in the beginning like a lot of romantic-matches are. ??

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]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/comment-page-1/#comment-3021 Onely Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:05:43 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2191#comment-3021 Tell it like it is! = ) CC Tell it like it is!
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]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/22/whats-wrong-with-wanting-to-be-unsingle/comment-page-1/#comment-3020 Onely Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:05:10 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2191#comment-3020 Happy birthday! It's not my birthday, but I had franks and beans. Way too many. Enjoy the champagne! CC Happy birthday! It’s not my birthday, but I had franks and beans. Way too many. Enjoy the champagne!
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