Comments on: How to Pop the Progressive Bubble? http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/ Fresh perspectives on living solo. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:58:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/comment-page-1/#comment-3160 Onely Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:11:19 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2332#comment-3160 Thanks SIngletude-- We will have to find some appropriate naysayers. I think ultraconservative sites publish cruel, hateful things about lots of people, not just singles. It would be better if singles were the *only* people they talk trash about, I guess. I am pretty amazed that it took me over thirty years to realize that legalized discrimination against singles existed! Or rather, I realized it, but never questioned it. So I agree that most matrimaniacs are probably like I used to be--not purposely discriminatory, just non-informed. CC Thanks SIngletude–
We will have to find some appropriate naysayers.

I think ultraconservative sites publish cruel, hateful things about lots of people, not just singles. It would be better if singles were the *only* people they talk trash about, I guess.

I am pretty amazed that it took me over thirty years to realize that legalized discrimination against singles existed! Or rather, I realized it, but never questioned it. So I agree that most matrimaniacs are probably like I used to be–not purposely discriminatory, just non-informed.

CC

]]> By: Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/comment-page-1/#comment-3150 Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:27:44 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2332#comment-3150 Oh, I can be a total bubble girl! That's one of the reasons I do my "Singles in the News" column. It helps me to read through the singles-oriented media headlines as a kind of cultural barometer. I'd say that most stuff I read has either a positive or neutral tone. But every week, at least one article qualifies for the Singleschmucker Award, which means it displays some pretty egregious singlism! And some articles I won't even link to because they originate with sources that clearly have an agenda, usually ultraconservative. Some of those conservative sites publish the most cruel, hateful, ugly things about singles you could ever imagine, and I get dismayed when I see loads of commenters cheering them on. Personally, I really like your idea of interviewing naysayers. It would allow you to publicly undermine their arguments by confronting them with hard facts. Who knows? You might even change a few minds. Some matrimaniacs believe as they do because they're misinformed, not because they bear any ill will toward singles. I also think it would be fantastic to include more calls to action. It's true that, in the overall scheme of things, this is just one blog, but President Obama was elected from a grassroots movement. Change has to start somewhere, and who is it going to start with if not with us? Politicians pay more attention to constituents who call and write than some might think. After all, they want to be reelected. We need to let them know that singles are a big part of their voter base. I really believe that, right now, we singles as a whole are our own worst enemy. So many of us are convinced that the legalized discrimination entrenched in our system is acceptable or even commendable. So many of us believe that we really are less worthy than families. We need to value and stand up for ourselves because it doesn't mean anything that there are so many singles unless WE articulate how we differ from marrieds and demand that we be treated equally. Oh, I can be a total bubble girl! That’s one of the reasons I do my “Singles in the News” column. It helps me to read through the singles-oriented media headlines as a kind of cultural barometer. I’d say that most stuff I read has either a positive or neutral tone. But every week, at least one article qualifies for the Singleschmucker Award, which means it displays some pretty egregious singlism! And some articles I won’t even link to because they originate with sources that clearly have an agenda, usually ultraconservative. Some of those conservative sites publish the most cruel, hateful, ugly things about singles you could ever imagine, and I get dismayed when I see loads of commenters cheering them on.

Personally, I really like your idea of interviewing naysayers. It would allow you to publicly undermine their arguments by confronting them with hard facts. Who knows? You might even change a few minds. Some matrimaniacs believe as they do because they’re misinformed, not because they bear any ill will toward singles.

I also think it would be fantastic to include more calls to action. It’s true that, in the overall scheme of things, this is just one blog, but President Obama was elected from a grassroots movement. Change has to start somewhere, and who is it going to start with if not with us? Politicians pay more attention to constituents who call and write than some might think. After all, they want to be reelected. We need to let them know that singles are a big part of their voter base.

I really believe that, right now, we singles as a whole are our own worst enemy. So many of us are convinced that the legalized discrimination entrenched in our system is acceptable or even commendable. So many of us believe that we really are less worthy than families. We need to value and stand up for ourselves because it doesn’t mean anything that there are so many singles unless WE articulate how we differ from marrieds and demand that we be treated equally.

]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/comment-page-1/#comment-3068 Onely Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:25:43 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2332#comment-3068 Good, that's heartening that the nurse and the P.A. had your back. I hope you can get enough rest! Christina Good, that’s heartening that the nurse and the P.A. had your back. I hope you can get enough rest!

Christina

]]> By: autonomous http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/comment-page-1/#comment-3064 autonomous Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:31:09 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2332#comment-3064 Thanks CC, It has been a long time! I took two separate weeks of vacation and then felt lousy until this emergent surgery, so while at work I've really had to work. Lots of unmarrying happening here... The patient advocate did call on Sunday within 24 hours of my discharge and definitely heard about this. While you have a point about the hospital possibly discouraging non-family, my nurse was on the phone about it the second she saw he wasn't there so apparently hadn't gotten the memo if there was one. My parents were let in without a hitch 30 minutes later. It's all good- like we've mentioned before, we certainly aren't alone when we're not married or exclusively coupled. Thanks CC, It has been a long time! I took two separate weeks of vacation and then felt lousy until this emergent surgery, so while at work I’ve really had to work. Lots of unmarrying happening here…
The patient advocate did call on Sunday within 24 hours of my discharge and definitely heard about this. While you have a point about the hospital possibly discouraging non-family, my nurse was on the phone about it the second she saw he wasn’t there so apparently hadn’t gotten the memo if there was one. My parents were let in without a hitch 30 minutes later.
It’s all good- like we’ve mentioned before, we certainly aren’t alone when we’re not married or exclusively coupled.

]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2009/10/29/how-to-pop-the-progressive-bubble/comment-page-1/#comment-3062 Onely Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:37:12 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2332#comment-3062 That's horrible!! Did a patient advocate ever come to talk to you? That would be a great chance to voice your complaint. And I'm sure that the woman at the admitting desk would not have taken such a hard stance if the hospital (or another hospital) hadn't somehow encouraged it in previous cases. I was just recently wondering why you had been absent from the blogosphere for so long! I hope you're doing better. . . CC That’s horrible!! Did a patient advocate ever come to talk to you? That would be a great chance to voice your complaint. And I’m sure that the woman at the admitting desk would not have taken such a hard stance if the hospital (or another hospital) hadn’t somehow encouraged it in previous cases.

I was just recently wondering why you had been absent from the blogosphere for so long! I hope you’re doing better. . .

CC

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