Comments on: Onely is “Between Boyfriends”

By: Onely

Onely — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 00:43:50 +0000

Man, now I feel bad. I hope there are no MPD readers out there who felt peeved by my ill-chosen metaphor, as I would have if they had used an OCD metaphor. If so, sorry guys!
CC

By: Onely

Onely — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 00:07:07 +0000

Hmmm. . . I think you’re right to have pointed that out. Lots of mental disorders have become part of our colloquial speak, so that we use them almost without thinking, in the place of other descriptive terms. In this case, if I had been less lazy with my terminology I could have maybe called the blurb “oxymoronic” or. . . “conflicted”. . . or. . . uh. . . well as you can see, that’s why I fell back on MPD. I personally am uncomfortable with, and a little resentful of, anyone using “OCD” in a casual or joking reference, having had my issues with (real) OCD in the past. However, amazingly even I have occasionally said “OCD” in situations that trivialized it–feeling surprised and guilty even as it came out of my mouth! I guess that’s how ingrained these casual references to “schizo” or “OCD” or “multiple personality” are in our language now. But that’s no reason to perpetuate the bad habit. Thanks for flagging the problem! Any readers who want submit alternate wording. . . fire away!!
Christina

By: Fangirl

Fangirl — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:34:57 +0000

I really like your blog and I read it fairly often (though I usually lurk and this might be the first time I’ve commented), but I’m a little worried about the ableism in your post, using Multiple Personality Disorder to refer to the conflicting tone of the second blurb.

By: Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles

Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 07:01:01 +0000

In total agreement with you! You took the words right out of my mouth! And, no, I haven’t read either of those books and have no intention of doing so.

I really hope that the plethora of subtly anti-single books has more to do with perceived audience than anything else. I think publishers believe most women would prefer to be in relationships and want to know how to become un-single. I have to admit that that is also true of the majority of the women I know. So, they’re selling what’s profitable. But I hope that as more women choose to remain single and become more vocal about it, we’ll see more material on the shelves for those of us who prefer or are just as happy with the solo lifestyle.

By: Singlism? Feminism? What gives? (Part One) « Onely: Single and Happy

Singlism? Feminism? What gives? (Part One) « Onely: Single and Happy — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 04:37:35 +0000

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