Comments on: So I Know This Great Person. . . http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/ Fresh perspectives on living solo. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:53:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: OMG, I’m One of THEM. « Onely: Single and Happy http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/comment-page-1/#comment-4415 Sun, 07 Feb 2010 02:13:11 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2541#comment-4415 [...] my poor matchmaking coworkers, who don’t have kittens to help them ride out the Stormageddon. I will try to comfort and [...]

]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/comment-page-1/#comment-4414 Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:17:58 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2541#comment-4414 Thanks Simone–it wasn’t too bad really. He’s a nice guy and just following the conventional (albeit annoying) social smalltalk of our day (sigh). Oddly, the very next day another coworker made a similar comment to me and my single coworker: “How come all the most beautiful women are single?” (He was not flirting–just being exuberant. He is happily married.) I was about to explain that It’s Not A Disease etc etc, but then my coworker sighed and expressed regret about her status, and I lost my chance to lecture as the conversation turned. I hope this doesn’t become a trend. CC

]]> By: Simone Grant http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/comment-page-1/#comment-4412 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:09:25 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2541#comment-4412 You started the post with a few questions – Why do people try to matchmake? Is there a proper way to matchmake? What are matchmaking faux pas?

Rachel touched upon the answer to the first one. Being a part of a couple is the norm for adults in our society. So those of us who are single (even happily so) are living outside the norm. People, even well -meaning people, see us as defective in some way.

The proper way for him to do it would have been to ask if you had any interest, not to pester you and belittle your responses.

The third answer is pretty obvious, as he was Mr. Faux Pas.

I’m sorry you had to deal with that. It sounds dreadful.

]]> By: Onely http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/comment-page-1/#comment-4396 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:37:21 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2541#comment-4396 Lauri, don’t give up on Meetup.com. Have you tried the language groups? I love those.
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]]> By: Lauri http://onely.org/2010/01/28/so-i-know-this-great-person/comment-page-1/#comment-4383 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:53:17 +0000 http://onely.org/?p=2541#comment-4383 haha that’s funny Lisa. I made a new friend last year via a mutual friend, and she just moved away! It sucks because she was the one fellow single person I knew in town! I’m trying to make new friends, but getting nowhere! I’ve never found those meetup.com groups as very effective- people go for the hike or the bike ride, not to make friends. It doesn’t help on Saturday night when you’re looking for something to do. Likewise with rec teams and stuff like that. We need to institute friend set ups!

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