Men Can Stop Rape, But Not Singlism September 17, 2010Posted by Onely in As If!.
Tags: different prices for singles, discrimination against singles, men can stop rape, singlism
Three awesome teenage men are receiving awards for their work towards stopping violence against women. And you can go see them receive their Men of Strength awards at the National Press Club in DC on September 22nd: for 125 dollars if you’re single and 75 dollars if you’re coupled.
When I got the email announcing the event, I was impressed with and happy for Anwar Muhammad Nur, Jonathan Wade, and Terrill Wise, who speak out against abuse of women and negative images of masculinity, despite social and media pressure that says alpha males are violent males with minimal emotion. Men Can Stop Rape is right to honor precocious, socially aware teens like these. I was so impressed I thought I might want to actually attend the ceremony, but then I read the not-so-small print:
$100 per person
$150 per pair
$125/$175 at the door
Oh, Men Can Stop Rape or The National Press Club or Unaffiliated Event Organizer! How you hurt my heart. I will not be attending your event, not because I’m mad about the discrimination against singles (though I am disappointed), but because my personal economic situation forces me to stick to double-digit nights out. Which I guess I could, if I were part of a pair.
“But wait!” I thought, looking harder at the email. “I am part of many pairs! Me and my movie buddy Sharon, me and my sushi partner Ben, me and my yoga cohort Debra, me and my writing partner Laroche. Surely one of them would want to come.” I decided Debra would be most impressed by the boys. I was about to hit “forward” on the email when I thought, “Am I cheating? By ‘pair’, they probably mean sex-and-everything-else partners. Will Debra and I have to pretend to be lesbian lovers?”
I’m sure no one at Will Call would take us into two separate back rooms and shine spotlights in our faces and quiz us about whether we were romantically involved with each other. But the very fact that upon seeing the ticket prices, I had to stop and ask myself these questions, made me feel less welcome.
Maybe they did mean “pair” in the generic sense of any two people. But I have a feeling that they didn’t. I have a feeling that Debra and I would have been welcomed at the door as a $150 lesbian couple, because we were a couple, but if we’d shown up one after the other, separately, and asked to pay $75 each because that’s how much the coupled individuals were paying–then they’d probably ring for the bouncers (if they have those at the National Press Club).
What do you think, Copious Readers? What does “pair” mean in this case? Have you seen other examples of commercial venues charging more for singles and less for couples? I know you have. Is this ok because it’s a purely commercial Shopper’s Warehouse strategy of bulk-sells-for-cheaper? Or is it perpetuating our couple-crazed culture and the expense of single people?