Guest Post: A Take on How to Be Single and Happy December 5, 2013Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought, Guest Bloggers.
Tags: Guest Post Singles, happy singles advice, Veronica Hayes
trackback Copious Readers, remember that we always like guest posts expressing different writers’ feelings on being single and happy (or not). Here is one from Veronica Hayes. We welcome comments!
–Christina and Lisa
Being single and happy means taking advantage of the fact that your primary responsibility is to yourself. It also means that your time is to yours to do with as you choose, so choose wisely. Sitting around the house playing video games, going online, or watching TV are all options. A great option for most people is to get up and out on a regular basis and mingle with other single people. Join a gym club, find local social events, or get involved with sports teams – professional or local. Staying active will keep you from wondering what to do with all the free time you have available to you.
Since you live alone, there is no one else to consider when choosing the type of sound system, size of the big screen TV, or how comfortable the chairs should be. There is no one else’s mess to clean up, so you take care of yourself. Take advantage of this and create the type of single person environment that makes a statement about you and being single. I once lived in an apartment that had a massive living room which I turned into an entertainment room, complete with big screen TV, surround sound stereo, and uber-comfortable furniture for lounging. I didn’t worry about someone rearranging things or telling me to turn the volume down.
This may take some time, but it would behoove you to evaluate whether you’re truly happy or not with your life. You’re single for a reason – whether by choice or by circumstance. If you’re not feeling at ease with your current situation, then find ways to come to terms with it, whether it’s for the short term or long term, and make your life one worth waking up to in the morning. Trying to deny reality will only come back to bite you in the end, so find out what works for you, and don’t be afraid to run with it!
As I said in the beginning, the one constant in life is change. You will be happier knowing that you have the option to change your mind – in a week, or a month, or a year. Between now and then, re-evaluate your overall situation. For example, you may not be financially ready to move from singleness to marriage or some state in between. Set aside some time and examine your finances to see if the direction you are headed will enable you to make the transition. Remember, you may decide after a while that having money and freedom is a nice combination.
There are advantages to both being single and being married. They are just different advantages, and the older you get the more likely you will be to accept your singleness or start looking for a life partner. But keep in mind that going from single to married, married to single, over and over again will only make you wonder if you really know what you’re doing. Whatever changes you decide to make, always be your own best friend.