Comments for Onely: Single and Happy

Comment on First, Do No Harm: Marital Status At the Doctor’s by Marina

Marina — Fri, 17 May 2013 17:31:37 +0000

I did ask a medical doctor whether he is married or not. He never answer my question. What’s wrong with it?

Comment on Let’s Rank People: Always-Single, Divorced, Married. Who would you date? by rlgunr

rlgunr — Wed, 15 May 2013 11:58:35 +0000

I am of two minds about this. As a good friend of mine (who is now married for the second time) observed, at least someone who’s divorced has demonstrated an ability (or at least willingness) to commit. I have more typically been involved with never-marrieds, thinking we had more in common (it’s my status as well). But given the fact that we are all pushing 50 (or more) it always seems these guys are primarily committed to … remaining single.

Comment on Let’s Rank People: Always-Single, Divorced, Married. Who would you date? by sneezypb

sneezypb — Sun, 12 May 2013 17:18:16 +0000

It would be more interesting if Dee’s father also “dated some wonderful divorced men.”

Being divorced is meaningless on its own. The circumstances leading to the divorce mean much more. Was he caught cheating? Were all the signs there that he was not really committed to the relationship so after several years of marriage he did not magically become more interested?

Comment on Being Onely by JoyUK

JoyUK — Sun, 12 May 2013 11:14:22 +0000

Hello
Please let me congratulate you on your blog and on your attitude – it is so refreshing and uplifting to read/know there are women like me ‘out there’ seeing as I’ve never met any here in England even though the latest gov stats say that 1 in 5 middle-aged women are childless and 1/3rd of households are solos in the UK.
At 50 years old I rejoice in and celebrate my solo childfree life with gratitude. I’m not miserable about it at all, not selfish, not greedy, not guilty, nor ashamed and no longer made to feel inferior by the ‘superior’ attitudes of mothers the way I used to in my 30s. I am at peace with myself, relaxed and contented with who I am and with my choices – it would take a remarkable man for me to become a couple again after living solo for 20 years.
I saw your question… “If you’re not a mother what are you?” – I’m ME, that’s who I am. I think it’s pretty tragic to have to define who you are by saying you’re a ‘mother’ or a ‘wife’ – what’s that? – it’s a role, it’s not who you ARE as a person in yourself.
I love being childfree solo and I wish other women like me also felt that way, but it seems very uncommon, plus it feels a LONG way off when those who feel they can’t exist unless they’re in a couple, plus those with kids can understand that the choice of those who wish to be solo childless is right for them as people and doesn’t mean they are necessarily defective, crazy, or alien in some way.
I hope your blog and website thrives into the future. Thank you.

Comment on Let’s Rank People: Always-Single, Divorced, Married. Who would you date? by Lynn

Lynn — Sun, 12 May 2013 05:56:30 +0000

Exactly, Christina…my very best husband was divorced twice, before we hooked up and it’s been 42 good years…so far… Just need to find the right combination of personalities and, er, um, a little maturity helps too.