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Autonomous says: Cats and books don’t grunt or snore.
“It’s taken me years to understand that solitude is the amniotic fluid necessary to nurture creativity, and that my need to be alone is not simply an aberration. I’ve become used to living on my own terms. Even alone, I’m not alone.” –Mindy Lewis, Life Inside.
As soon as I met a man, he would ask me how come I had never been married–in other words–’Prove that you’re not a freak.’ I was always tempted to say I had spent my entire adult life in an insane asylum but, now that I was out, I would start looking.” (Novelist Rona Jaffe, as quoted by Marie Edwards and Eleanor Hoover in The Challenge of Being Single, 17-18)
Singlutionary says: this makes me think of that Dinosaur show from the 80s or 90s where the dad dinosaur came home everyday with his lunchbox and said “Honey, I’m Home!” Uhhhh. I couldn’t be him or his wife, waiting for him all day to hug and kiss him while he comes in the door. Maybe that works for Dinosaurs, but not for me!
Singlutionary says: I honestly think he might be better off reading Onely than watching women suck men’s nuts online.
Lauri says: It’s always been my dream to get on the bachelor, be selected and then turn the guy down. Unfortunately, my breasts aren’t big enough to see this through.
Lori says: And what mother has nails like that with tiny fragile newborn(s) in the home? . . .She IS somewhat monstrous. Breeding eight babies at once? She’s a woman, not a cat.
Singlutionary says: It would all be so simple if I could just accept the status quo on all fronts. I’m sure I’d get some rockin’ wedding presents including maybe *gasp* a yacht? Plus diamonds are forever/a-girls-best-friend. Unfortunately, my best friend is a dog. And I’m against diamond mining.
lori says: CC- your experience reminds me of the old riddle about the young boy who is taken to the emergency room. The doctor on duty says “I can’t treat him, he’s my son,” but the doctor is not the father. Who is the doctor? Our brains are so conditioned to ancient traditionally held roles, that often we don’t automatically assume that the treating physician was the boy’s mother. It will take some time before we adjust to the relative parity achieved, on both sides.
Just as it will take a long time, if ever, for people to stop automatically assuming that a single person is a miserable social recluse, a commitment-phobe, or really deep-down are desperately longing to get married and have babies and get divorced like normal people.
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Being happy with yourself first and foremost is what will drive you to help this world and make it a better place. Finding someone who makes you better is a great thing which should be cherished and can only be formed with commitment; But if your partner makes you worst off (which happens more often than not), take yourself as far away from the relationship as you can, be single, be only, to find the special part of yourself they made you lose (or give up). Just because I havent found who “makes me better”, doesnt mean i won’t, but my life doesn’t revolve around it. You have to be whole, before you can start to give someone new & special your better half.
nice message..HI
I have never wanted marriage, from age nine, I realized that it might prevent fun. After my divorce, I became more determined to eschew societal (read: family) pressure and live my life as a staunch singleton.
Sometimes I am popular, other times, not so much. Most times I spend moments in egoic martydom, wondering why I have a great life but no boyfriend? The rest of those times (between grad school and career) I listen to my married/coupled friends tell me how lucky I am. They are correct.
So I will continue to drink my lattes’, whirl around in my convertible, walk my adorable dogs, and enjoy.
“Blankets never say the wrong thing.” — Jana
It’s so relaxing being single, lol!
Hi guys,
My name is John and I am from Stirling in the United Kingdom. I have recently discovered this forum and I like it very much.
I am a little bit shy so I will not write much about me but maybe when I will get confortable, you guys will get to know me better!
My main hobbies are astrology and watching movies. I also like outdoor activites but the temperature has been horrible for the last days or so here in Stirling.
I was wondering if anyone else here is from the united Kingdom too?
I am glad to have joined this forum!
Cheers!
John
PS: Sorry if this was posted in the wrong section. I could not find the right one!
Thanks John–This is as good a place to post as any. = ) You bring up a good point–We don’t really have a “general” comment forum, but rather people comment on individual posts. A general forum might not be a bad idea at all. Not sure if we have any regular readers from the U.K. I know we have some from Australia and India! We appreciate your feedback and look forward to hearing from you again.
Christina (and Lisa)
hello, i came across this neat site from the blog titled Singletude. i have a rare bounty of poisitive single-person focused quotations that i’ve personally been jotting down from various books i have read over the years. i do have all of the names of the first person who said this so if you do choose to use the quote (or more than one) somewhere else on the web please acknowledge the person’s name who first said this. thanks for being compassionate. these quotes I am proud to share them with you:
“It is the individual in stillness who constitutes the meaning of the world.” – C.J. Jung
“It’s not being alone/single that makes us unhappy, it’s the way we relate to our own aloneness that is the problem.” How we relate to what we are experiencing the thing in itself is never the problem, it’s instead always the way we relate/ think/associate with it that burdens us.” -Ajahn Brahm
“Unlike Madame Bouverie you don’t chase the glittering life, you lay a trap for it. You tunnel up from the bottom. You do need a quiet, private, personal aggression….a refusal to take singleness lying down.” Pg. 9-10 in the book Sex and the Single Girl by Helen Gurley-Brown.
“Why are you breaking down, incidentally? I mean if you’re able to go into a collapse with all you’re might, why can’t you use the same energy to stay well and busy?”- Zooey pg 166-167 from J.D. Salinger’s book Franny & Zooey
“I used to think that love was an extra-a spice that made life more fulfilling for some. It occours to me now that it’s dangerous, that who has it and who loses it decide the course of the world.” pg 209 from the book Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story by R. Kadish
“let go of the idea that someone else can make your life wonderful. Your happiness is in your own hands; that’s the safest place for it to be.” pg 38 from the book Living Alone & Loving It by Barbara Feldon.
Thanks K/K! You just increased our quote board by about 200%. = ) I found the Tolstoy one especially interesting (but then again, he *is* Tolstoy).
CC