Tags: fall colors, i love being single, journeys, louisville, road trips, shoes
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OK, before (some of) you gag — this post is not actually about the wonders of shoe shopping. No — instead, it’s about how going shoe shopping recently reminded me to remember and relish my Oneliness (how’s that for some alliteration?!). (more…)
Rethinking Oneliness?! October 24, 2008Posted by Onely in As If!.
Tags: i love being single, junot diaz, polls
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Junot Diaz kissed me on the cheek!!! (more…)
Onely Freakout October 3, 2008Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.
Tags: college composition, freakout, i love being single, teaching, worst student ever
As I have mentioned a time or two before, I am a graduate student and a college professor. Right now, I teach Introduction to College Writing. And in my class this semester, I have won the luck of the draw, so to speak, and drawn the most frustrating student I have ever had to teach. (more…)
Long Week, but at Least I’m Onely! September 19, 2008Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, We like. . ..
Tags: being alone in the dark, blackout, candlelight, hum of electricity, i love being single, Ike
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I’ve been virtually (haha) absent from Onely this week thanks to the remnants of Hurricane Ike that blew through the city of Louisville on Sunday and knocked out half the city’s power. Although I got my power back early Wednesday morning, having to work in candlelight required lots of patience and extra time, which therefore pushed me and my work behind, and thus put Onely low on the priority list (quite unfortunately).
But as I told Christina on Sunday evening as I sat on my loveseat surrounded by a small stockpile of burning candles, I much prefer to be Onely to being coupled in a situation like this. Here’s why: (more…)
Great Onely Activities, Excerpt 777: Sitting in the Dark September 8, 2008Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..
Tags: adventures alone, i love being single, Movies, road trips, sitting alone, spring, woody allen
I just got home from going to see the newest Woody Allen movie, Cristina Vicky Barcelona (or is it Vicky Cristina Barcelona?!)… And I went ALONE. (more…)
Books, Excess, and Being Onely August 22, 2008Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.
Tags: Books, death, i love being single, identity, library fees, life of the mind, overdue books, passion, reading, thinking
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So I just stumbled across an article which describes a 20-year-old who was arrested for having unpaid library fines! (poor girl, she doesn’t deserve to be punishedfor borrowing books!!!) What does this have to do with Being Onely, you might ask? Well, not much really. Except I have a problem. It’s called I-must-have-books. I mean, I must have them, and after a summer dedicated mostly to reading and thinking (only one month of teaching!), I currently have a ton of library books here in my apartment. They are piled in small, haphazard groups on my coffee table, hidden under loose papers all over my desk, stacked neatly on shelves in my living room — and of course let’s not forget the books I own, which take up lots of shelf space in the hallway outside of my apartment (seriously, the shelves are so big that there was no space for them — or the books I own — inside of this one-bedroom apartment!). (more…)
My Love Reminder! or, the origins of Onely July 8, 2008Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings.
Tags: breakup, flowers, FTD, heteronormative, i love being single
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Oh, karma. A year ago my boyfriend broke up with me for the second time, when he discovered that I’d been dating someone else–while we were broken up the first time. At the time of that second breakup, I was not in a very Onely place and I actually–shudder–tried to apologize by sending him flowers from FTD! Not long afterward, I managed to scrape together the remnants of my pride and reason, and I moved on to Oneliness. Until. (There’s always an until, isn’t there?) (more…)
Speaking of bad dates… June 30, 2008Posted by Onely in Dating, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought.
Tags: i love being single
I’m glad Christina went ahead and posted about what we have been discussing between ourselves; we are both ambivalent about whether or not it’s possible to describe the state of being Onely without framing it in relation to previous relationships/dating experiences. But the truth is, I think that Christina and I have both arrived at our current place, writing for this blog, because of the happiness we’ve discovered as a result of not being in relationships. In fact, I’d even argue that if it hadn’t been for being happy in our previous relationships, we wouldn’t understand how valuable it is to now be happy by ourselves today. For me personally, having previously been in a six-year relationship that took up most of my 20s, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be this happy being single agin. I think that my past (long-term, committed, and happy) relationship is fundamental to me being – and preferring to be – Onely today.
But none of this has seems to have anything to do with bad dates just yet, does it? (more…)