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Pop Music, Scourge of the Onelys (Part 1 of 8,593): Measuring time in relationship units July 2, 2008

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For our first installment of “Pop Music: Scourge of the Onelys”, I would like to highlight Kenny Chesney’s “Don’t Blink”. Now, don’t get me wrong, I would marry Kenny if he asked me (any day now), but I have to comment on these lyrics, which I heard for the eighty-twelfth time during my commute today:  

“Don’t blink
Just like that you’re six years old and you take a nap and you
Wake up and you’re twenty-five and your high school sweetheart becomes your wife
Don’t blink
You just might miss your babies growing like mine did”

And I was thinking about how so often we measure the passage of time in units of relationships, marriages, and children. (more…)

Speaking of bad dates… June 30, 2008

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I’m glad Christina went ahead and posted about what we have been discussing between ourselves; we are both ambivalent about whether or not it’s possible to describe the state of being Onely without framing it in relation to previous relationships/dating experiences. But the truth is, I think that Christina and I have both arrived at our current place, writing for this blog, because of the happiness we’ve discovered as a result of not being in relationships. In fact, I’d even argue that if it hadn’t been for being happy in our previous relationships, we wouldn’t understand how valuable it is to now be happy by ourselves today. For me personally, having previously been in a six-year relationship that took up most of my 20s, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be this happy being single agin. I think that my past (long-term, committed, and happy) relationship is fundamental to me being – and preferring to be – Onely today.

But none of this has seems to have anything to do with bad dates just yet, does it? (more…)

Blogging Pains June 30, 2008

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So, because this is a new blog, Lisa and I are still finding our footing. We have lots of topic ideas, but one problem we’ve stumbled against is how to address some of those topics while still maintaining a positive, proactive tone in line with the Onely philosophy of single-not-cranky. For example, we were wondering–how do we write about those bad dates that make us appreciate being Onely, without sounding bitter or enslaved by the framework of coupledom? Even if we can’t answer this question, we’re still going to write about dates gone wrong. Because let’s face it, the only thing more fun than a good date is telling the story of a bad one. So stay tuned.  

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Book Review: Against Love June 29, 2008

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Kipnis, Laura. Against Love: A Polemic. New York: Pantheon, 2003.

As the title suggests, the book Against Love is meant to piss readers off, raise their hackles, question the previously unquestionable; Kipnis daringly tackles what she believes is the problem of our modern conceptions and (perhaps more importantly) expectations of love. In the pre-prologue (humorously entitled “Reader Advisory”), Kipnis asks, “To begin with, who would dream of being against love?” (3). (more…)