Does Being Coupled Make Other Losses Easier? May 15, 2010Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.
My friend Jane and I were discussing our mutual friend Patricia, whose father had just died after a long, nasty bout with cancer. “Well,” said Jane as we hiked along, “At least she has (her boyfriend) Bob”. Does anyone find this a strange non-sequitor? I was so struck I still remember it seven years later. Would having a boyfriend mitigate in any way the pain of losing a father? If so, how and why? Or was Jane’s comment a manifestation of the mythological powers we imbue upon the state of couplehood–that it makes everything better, even the loss of someone else close to you.