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The World’s Oneliest House July 29, 2009

Posted by Onely in Dating, Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities, I want to..., single and happy, solo travel.
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Point Lookout Lighthouse in Maryland is the world’s oneliest house. It sits on a rocky outcropping that juts into the confluence of the Potomac River and the Chesapeake Bay. I went there with my paranormal investigations group (a story for another blog at another time), and it’s a truly spooky, isolated location. But that’s not why it’s a onely place. What struck me about the lighthouse was that it had been modified so that two keepers’ families could live there together. A wall was built down the center of the house. The wall turned into a railing that crossed  the front porch and went right down the middle of the short staircase leading from the lawn to the front of the house. The house had two front doors on the porch, one on each side of the railing. The two families could walk up their respective sides of the steps and enter their respective mirror-image houses, dine in their mirror-image dining rooms and sleep in their respective bedrooms, and never cross paths except in one shared alcove to which they each had lockable doors. That alcove accessed the spiral staircase leading to the light tower. 

As I walked around the lighthouse with my EMF reader and digital voice recorder (again, a different story for a different day), I thought about what an ideal setup the lighthouse would make for a couple. Well, for any couple of which I was a part, anyway. I could live in one side and he could live in the other, and whenever we wanted to hang out we could meet in the alcove or on the porch. If I wanted to sit and write, I wouldn’t have to worry about him walking around in another room and bothering me (I have trouble writing with another person in the same house, even if they’re in a different room). I would have my own hairs in my own bathtub and own dishes in the sink. But if either of us wanted or needed the other’s company, we’d be right there.

Copious Readers, do you agree? Would this be the ideal living arrangement for a pair of CREAPs (committed romantic ever-after partners)? If not, what would your ideal CREAPy living arrangement be?



1. Singletude - July 29, 2009

Oooh, Christina, you’re a ghost hunter! 🙂 Paranormal research is a big interest of mine, too…and so are lighthouses! One of my dream trips is St. Augustine Light in FL.

I think lighthouses appeal to me in part because of their remoteness and aura of self-sufficiency. A perfect metaphor for the onely state of mind. This one with its dual-occupancy quarters really takes the cake! I would love to have an arrangement like that!

Sometimes I really envy the wealthy, who can afford his and hers bedrooms, bathrooms, and everything else. I wonder what divorce stats look like for couples who live in separate quarters.

2. onely - July 29, 2009

Or those palaces in olden Europe where the duchess had one wing and the duke had another. . .

I have been to St Augustine but somehow missed the lighthouse! Shoot.

3. Lauri - July 30, 2009

That’s sort of like my house now. I live in a two family. It would be a great set up- have your partner upstairs, share stuff when you want to, but still have your own bathroom, kitchen, bedroom. Just like you’re single but with benefits. Perfect situation.

4. autonomous - July 31, 2009

I so want my own wing if I ever marry!!!

I read recently that 1 in 4 American couples have separate rooms and tend to be happier. Not sure if it was scientific but all the couples interviewed said they get better quality sleep and it actually boosts intimacy. In my last relationship we reached the talking-about-moving-in stage, and I insisted that if I did move in, that I have my own bedroom. I think it’s a great idea. Separate houses is even better, but I like the wall down the center of this old lighthouse!

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