More on Selfish Onelies July 6, 2008
Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought.Tags: childfree, selfish
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Although some people’s first instinct is to think that people who don’t want kids are selfish, many people actually *have* kids for selfish reasons:
–to improve their relationship with their spouse or partner
–to leave behind a legacy, copies of their genes
–to have someone to take care of them in their old age
–to relive missed opportunities from their own youth
–to fit in, because everyone else is doing it (more…)
Socializing with the Single: Even if I *am* Selfish. July 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, As If!, Everyday Happenings.Tags: being single is great, desire, having children, Heteronormativity, lectures on literature, nabokov, normalcy, selfish, single, singlism
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So I’m in St. Louis right now, and yesterday I spent the day hanging out with my best friend and her fiancee as we barbecued (and I’m not being flippant using that word – S [the fiancee] made ribs — good ones too. v. impressive!) and entertained M’s friends and family as they came over to celebrate the dual holiday of her birthday and independence day. I had a great time, and for a while I was stuck outside because I shielded myself from the biting bugs with some very strong-smelling bug spray, which M couldn’t stand the smell of inside – and because of it I got to chill with S while he attended the grill and M was inside preparing other food. (more…)
Speaking of bad dates… June 30, 2008
Posted by Onely in Dating, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought.Tags: i love being single
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I’m glad Christina went ahead and posted about what we have been discussing between ourselves; we are both ambivalent about whether or not it’s possible to describe the state of being Onely without framing it in relation to previous relationships/dating experiences. But the truth is, I think that Christina and I have both arrived at our current place, writing for this blog, because of the happiness we’ve discovered as a result of not being in relationships. In fact, I’d even argue that if it hadn’t been for being happy in our previous relationships, we wouldn’t understand how valuable it is to now be happy by ourselves today. For me personally, having previously been in a six-year relationship that took up most of my 20s, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be this happy being single agin. I think that my past (long-term, committed, and happy) relationship is fundamental to me being – and preferring to be – Onely today.
But none of this has seems to have anything to do with bad dates just yet, does it? (more…)
Car Sauna June 27, 2008
Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Uncategorized, We like. . ..Tags: being single, car sauna, heat, single activities, single and happy
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Being Onely means that I can indulge my habits that give me great pleasure but distress a large chunk of the population. I like to climb in the car on a summer’s afternoon and not turn on the airconditioner. I drive along with windows closed, breathing the glass-cooked air. The sweat droplets well up under the bottom rims of my sunglasses. (more…)
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