Onely Eats February 9, 2009
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Food for Thought, Your Responses Requested!.Tags: annie's mac and cheese, eating healthy and being single, meals for one, michael pollan, omnivore's dilemma
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For the last week or so, I have been RAVENOUS. I don’t know why. I have been consuming way too many carbs, as I know I shouldn’t, but those don’t fill me up either. Since I live alone, I don’t have anyone to cook for me or to share my food with. Sometimes, this means I don’t eat well, or at all, or at the right times, or in the right quantities. A lot of times I don’t get the nutrients I need. And when I do cook, it’s difficult to know how much to cook — usually I prepare more food than I need for a single meal and freeze everything that’s extra. I find myself wasting perishable food that can’t be frozen (like dairy), because I can’t eat it all before it spoils.
Great Onely Activities: Language CDs February 5, 2009
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities.Tags: car sauna, driving alone, Egyptian Arabic, Pimsleur
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“Ingleesi! Ingleesi!” I yell as I drive down Interstate 66. I’m answering the question the man in my CD player has asked me: “How do you say ‘English’ in Arabic?” He pauses, then says, “Ingleesi. Si. Gleesi. Ingleesi“.
“YES! I knew it!” I yell. “I AM A FREAKING POLYGLOT GENIUS!” I thump the steering wheel. (more…)
Great Onelies in Real Time: Dr. Trudy Steuernagel February 4, 2009
Posted by Onely in Great Onelies in Real Time.Tags: autism, feminism, fox8news, Gertude Steuernagel, Kent State, mental health advocacy, Sky Walker
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Onely salutes Dr. Gertrude Steuernagel, a beloved and progressive women’s studies and political science professor at Kent State in Ohio. Steuernagel is an accomplished and outspoken and feminist and autism advocate. As she raised her adored son Sky, who is autistic, she also found time to make an impact in both the women’s movement and in mental health advocacy–all while Onely.
Tragically, last week Steuernagel was severely beaten by Sky. Autism does not/not cause violence in and of itself, but the resulting sensory overload and frustration of not being able to communicate can cause sufferers to lash out, and Sky had other neurological challenges as well that may have contributed to the assault. He didn’t know what he was doing. Steuernagel knew the challenges associated with caring for Sky, but she also knew the joys, as she describes in this amazing essay. She is truly a Great Onely, and we send our strongest well-wishes out to her numerous family and friends.
–CC
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Bad Onely Activities: Unburying My Snow-and-Ice-Covered Car from a Busy Street February 2, 2009
Posted by Onely in Bad Onely Activities, Just Saying..Tags: ice is awful, ice-covered car, louisville, poor me!, shoveling snow
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OK, I’ve gotta admit: Sometimes, it sucks to be Onely. (But I must emphasize: ONLY sometimes!)
Like, when I have to unbury my car from underneath 6 or 7 inches layers of snow and ice, in the dark, on a busy one-way street, with no help from anyone.
Imagine this scene, except with a lone, petite female figure only visible thanks to the beams of the headlights of oncoming traffic.
Onely becomes Invaluable! January 28, 2009
Posted by Onely in blog reviews, Everyday Happenings, Reviews.Tags: alternatives to marriage project, great blogs, married and unmarried sex offenders, singles advocacy
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Onely thanks the Alternatives to Marriage Project for including us on their list of “blogs that are frequently updated and invaluable“. Lisa and I appreciate the affirmation in a time when we struggle to post regularly, fighting the constant assault of jobs and school (and, uh, Facebook).
So check out AtMP’s blog, where you can read about singlism issues and advocacy. See how they took the innovative and caffeinated step of sending chocolates to some judges who declared that an unmarried sex offender is not necessarily scarier than a married one! (Goes to show that Bush’s problem was not enough people sent him positive-reinforcement treats. “Good boy.”)
–CC and L (now with rather big heads)
Honorary Oneler: Hillary Clinton! January 27, 2009
Posted by Onely in Honorary Onely Awards.Tags: feminist, hillary clinton, progressive mindset, secretary of state
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Way back in October, I wrote this post about my debate with Christina about why I think Hillary Clinton did not divorce Bill way back when it would have seemed appropriate for her to do so. I suggested then that we nominate HRC for status as Honorary Oneler – and now that Clinton has been named our 67th Secretary of State, Onely officially names her as an Honorary Oneler! (more…)
For Rent: Spouse or Cat January 25, 2009
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Honorary Onely Awards.Tags: hagemashi tai, japan, rent a pet, rent a spouse, single services
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Recently I got an invitation, to a rather large formal party, addressed to a curlyquey “Christina C. and Spouse”.
Turns out, while I’ve been wasting time joking with my friends about needing a rent-a-boyfriend for just such awkward occasions, the Japanese have actually gone and created such a service.
Such services appear to be much less about sex and more about creating an image for the customer. You can rent relatives to bulk up the crowd at funerals, or play-act with you as a mother, or father, or spouse–either to give you practice for interacting with your real relatives, or just to give you the experience of what it’s like to fight with your father, or flirt with your husband. (more…)
The Oneliness of the Long Distance Writer January 22, 2009
Posted by Onely in Dating, Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.Tags: alan sillitoe, joyce carol oates, single writers, singlewriters.com, slow writer, solitary, writing is hard
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I’ve been thinking about how writing is so solitary. And about how writing is such a slow process. Solitary plus slow equals lots of time spent by myself, perhaps–perhaps!–even more than suits my introverted nature.
‘Course maybe my writing goes slowly because I spend so much time staring at the screen thinking about how my writing goes slowly. When I’m working on a particularly grueling, stubborn, stiff-dictioned story, I sometimes wonder if it’s worth the effort. Writing one polished page may take hours (Joyce Carol Oates, bite me) before it’s ready to be submitted to some publication that may or may not want it, more likely the latter.
Would my time be more wisely spent going out with my friends? Sometimes I wonder this, when I’m sitting wedged between my laptop and my massage chair (I know, poor me), typing at an average rate of one click per minute–and that’s if you include all my backspaces. (more…)
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