Great Onelies in Real Time: Veronica Dylan December 22, 2008
Posted by Onely in blog reviews, Dating, Great Onelies in Real Time, Profiles, Reviews.Tags: california, costa rica, divorce network, divorced, so over you, throwing things, veronica dylan
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Lisa and I are doing our Onely thing in California and Costa Rica, respectively. A few days ago, at the resort where I was staying on the southwest Pacific coast, I had the good fortune to meet another Great Onely: Veronica Dylan, who owns a rockin’ sparkle blouse and also blogs with honesty and humor about life after divorce.
I like her blog “So Over You” for a couple reasons (in addition to the blouse!): (more…)
Film Review: The Aviatrix November 20, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, film review, Reviews.Tags: cancer, happy ending, single and sick, superhero, the aviatrix
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I started this video with high hopes. A young woman with cancer draws herself as a body-armour-clad superhero and imagines fighting another woman in bright red body armour, who represents her cancer. Their fights, in a desert, rocky, otherworldly landscape, are interspersed with scenes from the woman’s life in her little suburban cottage. There is true-to-life tension with her mother, a true-to-life assholish doctor.
And then there’s the sensitive, funny lawn mowing guy. (more…)
Degree in Coupling, anyone? November 3, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, book review, Food for Thought, Reviews.Tags: Ellen Byerrum, Jim Lehrer, Mary Kay Ricks, PhD, Stephen Goodwin, Susan Fraser King
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On Saturday, I attended a luncheon at the Fairfax Country Club (there is no way to not make that sound snooty–but if I say the event raised money for scholarships, does that help?) where Susan Fraser King, Ellen Byerrum, Mary Kay Ricks, Stephen Goodwin and Jim Lehrer talked about their recent books and about writing in general. All the authors were entertaining speakers and I left lusting after each of their books.
However, the hostess in her intro made an interesting unOnely remark: (more…)
Honorary Onely: Trisha Yearwood October 15, 2008
Posted by Onely in Honorary Onely Awards, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, We like. . ..Tags: george w. bush, honorary onely, not a bad thing, ok with being single, trisha yearwood
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Yes, I know that Trisha Yearwood is married to Garth Brooks, so she’s not technically Onely. That’s why we are creating the Honorary Onely award. We figure we can make coupled people Honorary Onelies if they exhibit a profound understanding of the Onely ethic (or if they give us a large donation). If Yale can give George W. Bush an honorary degree even though he is, technically, an Idiot, then we can make Trisha an Honorary Onely. (more…)
Onely with Dependents? October 8, 2008
Posted by Onely in blog reviews, Food for Thought, Reviews, We like. . ..Tags: a beautiful dream, nut sucking, single father, single mother, single with dependents, solomother
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Lisa and I write about some prosaic everyday happenings that make us appreciate the being single–such as our post Onely and Nut-Sucking. (Ok, so it’s my post. Lisa would not be caught dead sucking the salt off cashews and putting them back in the tin, even by herself.)
But what if we were Onely with Kids? We would probably not want our kids to misinterpret our nut-sucking and come away thinking that at a party, they can lick the salt off the pretzels and put them back in the Chex mix. (more…)
Polyamorous Marriage and the Oneler October 2, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Reviews.Tags: polyamory, polyandry, polygamy
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In response to our post about Michael Turner’s The Trouble With Normal, Anita mentioned polyamorous relationships. This got us thinking–as proponents of people’s right not to get married, we also support people’s rights to be in non-heteronormative relationships such as same-sex. Does this mean we are also obligated, in theory, to support polyamorous relationships? (more…)
Gay Marriage perpetuating stigma against non-heteronormativeholes? September 26, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity, Reviews.Tags: gay marriage, gay normalization, michael turner, ron hogan, the trouble with normal
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On our in-process “Things We Like” page, Lindabeth recommended an interesting-sounding book by Michael Warner, The Trouble With Normal. I don’t know if we’ll end up reviewing this book, but it definitely raises a very interesting point! Ron Hogan’s below Amazon.com review says Warner argues that when people push for gay marriage, they are trying to normalize gays according to the current culturally sanctioned standards of monogamy and matrimony. But according to Warner, really this just paves the way for trying to normalize other people who don’t fit into heterosexual coupled roles. (more…)
BOOK REVIEW: Cheating at Solitaire, by Ally Carter September 17, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews.Tags: ally carter, cheating at solitaire, single
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Carter, Ally. Cheating at Solitaire. New York: Penguin, 2005
On the back of the book:
Self-help guru Julia James is so good at being single that she’s become famous for it–advising women that they don’t need a man to be happy. Then the unthinkable happens. Just when her newest book, 101 Ways to Cheat at Solitaire, is about to hit stores, a trumped-up piece of gossip linking her to a gorgeous actor hits the papers. Their pictures are splashed all over the tabloids, and now Julia’s credibility is about to hit rock bottom. But she isn’t going down without a fight. Unless, that is, the actor is going down with her.
I picked this book up because I wanted to see whether Julia ends up with the gorgeous actor. That’s what usually happens–the strong single woman is celebrated as long as in the end she ends up with a good man (Must Love Dogs, Hope Floats–oh we all know there are tons of examples out there, even if I can’t think of them right now). I was expecting Cheating at Solitaire would be different, because on the back of the book the author professes herself a proud singleton: (more…)
REVIEW: Pride and Joy; The Lives And Passions of Women Without Children, by Terri Casey September 4, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews.Tags: childfree, Pride and Joy: The Lives and Passions of Women Without, Terri Casey, Women without Children
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Casey, Terri. Pride And Joy: The Lives And Passions Of Women Without Children. New York: Simon and Schuester, 2007
Casey presents inspiring descriptions of twenty-five women who have chosen not to have children. She describes the women’s hobbies, jobs, families, friends, pets, goals, dreams, and accomplishments so that their lives all sound as rich as–if not, dare I say it, richer than–the lives of women who did choose to have children. (more…)
Pop Music, Scourge of the Onelies (part 715_e): I wuv my woogums September 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, We like. . ..Tags: Bobby McGee, pop music, single, Stevie Wonder, woogums
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Why are most pop songs about love? Because it’s a state fraught with emotion just begging to be released in song. Fine; I get that. But of all the pop songs about love, why are most of them about man-woman couple love? Because that’s the kind of love our world seems to place above all other kinds of love. Not fine; I don’t get that. (more…)
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