Why Date When You Can Write? April 29, 2009
Posted by Onely in Dating, Great Onely Activities, single and happy, We like. . ..Tags: being single, finding a boyfriend, Microsoft Word, relationship priorities, time-consuming hobbies, writing is hard
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I realized why I have so little interest in finding a boyfriend. It’s because I am already in a relationship. His name is Mike Rosoft Word. Yes, I am dating my writing. It is an emotionally exhausting relationship. I often feel I don’t deserve to be with Mike. I sometimes think about breaking if off. But I can’t. When we get along, it’s wonderful. When we aren’t meshing, though, I cry and gnash my teeth. I spend chunks of every weekend and several weeknights with Mike. You see, the more time I spend with him, the greater the chance that we’ll have one of our rare good spells. Last Saturday I told my friend Jess I couldn’t meet her for a movie because I was already planning to be with Mike that evening–even though I had just seen him the night before, and the night before that, too. I want to learn to garden, but Mike doesn’t like that (grit gets in his cracks), so I stay inside with him. (more…)
Colorado (Accidentally) Passes Pro-Single Law April 27, 2009
Posted by Onely in Heteronormativity, single and happy, We like. . ..Tags: Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage, colorado law, designated beneficiary, law supporting singles, Nancy Polikoff, redefining family
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Colorado: more than just heteronormative ghosts!
The state has passed a law allowing “any two unmarried people to designate each other as entitled to numerous legal consequences usually reserved to married couples”, says Nancy Polikoff, author of Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage, in her 15 April 2009 article about the new legislation. (more…)
Footloose Femails April 25, 2009
Posted by Onely in Guest Bloggers, Reviews, Some Like It Single, We like. . ..Tags: accidental pornography, community of single women, footloose femails, footloosefemails, single women email group
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Guess what, everyone: One of our readers, the wonderfully named Singal, has set up a Yahoo! Groups email community for single women, called Footloose Femails. The title is a nod to the concept of singles being “free to come and go”. Singal started the group as a way to build community among single women, to make friends and exchange ideas. She wanted to call the group Singals, but unfortunately that was already taken by a porno list (we hate when that happens–see Onely’s experience with creating accidental pornography).
So click the link above to go check out the description of the group and maybe sign up. And/or see Singlutionary’s post for a few more details about the group. If you go to Yahoo! Groups and search from there, make sure to type footloosefemails, all one word.
–Christina and Lisa
Honorary Onely Award: The Bronx State Supreme Court April 21, 2009
Posted by Onely in Honorary Onely Awards, single and happy, We like. . ..Tags: bronx state supreme court, dead fiance, harvesting sperm, posthumous sperm, single and sperm
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Onely is happy to report a refreshingly pro-single bit of news:
A New York woman has won a race-against-the-clock legal bid to harvest her dead fiance’s sperm.
Did you catch that? A SINGLE woman was allowed to harvest her fiance’s sperm after his sudden death!
This was so surprising to us, in fact, that when Christina sent me this article a few days ago, she (ever-the-singlist-vigilant) wrote: “This would never be allowed if she were single.”
But … luckily for singles everywhere, Christina misread the article!
And so, we’re happy to grant the Bronx State Supreme Court an Honorary Onely Award for listening to UNMARRIED Ms. Marrero and allowing her to harvest her fiance’s sperm after his death (which, okay, we both find a little bit gruesome, but to each her own, right?). (more…)
Onely Watershed Moments April 15, 2009
Posted by Onely in Bad Onely Activities, God-Idiot or Asshole?, Heteronormativity, We like. . ..Tags: accepting singleness, bad year, being single, drywall, dumped twice, single mythology, watershed moment
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In Lisa’s blurb on our “About Lisa and Christina” tab, she talks about how she fell in love with her single life on a road trip across the country. I was wondering what other watershed moments our Copious Readers have experienced in their journeys from (maybe) heteronormative self-expectations to acceptance of singlehood as a viable, healthy, and acceptable lifestyle.
I don’t know that I ever had a watershed moment. I think my default setting has always been “mostly fine with singleness”, with momentary spikes into “feeling obligated to date to meet social expectations”. However, I think I had a Watershed Month or two sometime in mid-2008. (more…)
(Old-Timey) Pop Culture: Stephen King’s The Shining April 9, 2009
Posted by Onely in book review, film review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews, We like. . ..Tags: isolation, nuclear family, single writer, stanley hotel, stephen king, the shining
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My sister and I recently ghost-toured The Stanley Hotel. The building inspired Stephen King‘s The Shining, his classic novel about a classic nuclear family–father, mother, and psychic son–who move to an isolated hotel in the mountains of Colorado to care for it during the snowed-in winter. After our tour, Caroline and I watched the The Shining miniseries, for the thrill of seeing good-looking actor types walk around the same places we commoners had just tread.
While watching, I got to thinking about whether the story is King’s commentary (conscious or not) on the Western world’s view of couplehood (and, by extension, the nuclear family) as the core unit of society, around which our lives should preferably be built. I’m interested to know what our Copious Readership thinks the plot “means”. Here’s what happens when our three fresh-faced heroes (Jack, Wendy, and little Danny) arrive at the hotel in October: (more…)
Some Like It Single: Singletude March 27, 2009
Posted by Onely in blog reviews, Some Like It Single, We like. . ..Tags: a positive blog for singles, clever elsie, help a friend with a breakup, lose yourself, single homebuyer, single homeowner, singletude
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Welcome to the latest installment in our new series, Some Like It Single, where we profile (relatively) small, independent blogs dedicated to exploring what it means to be “single” in American culture and, we hope, around the world.
Today we’re looking at the thorough, thoughtful, and entertaining posts in Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles, by Clever Elsie (and yes, she is!).
Tag-team Blogging March 24, 2009
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities, Secret Lives of the Happily Single, single and happy, We like. . ..Tags: blogging as a team, importance of friendship, single friends, single people, we love being single
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When I told a friend of mine about Onely, he said, “Does anyone ever mention how funny it is that there are two of you writing a blog together about being single?” No, no one ever does. In fact (says Christina), the irony hadn’t even occurred to Lisa or I until that friend of mine mentioned it.
And it is ironic–on the surface. While Lisa and I are jumping up and down on our respective couches yelling about the benefits of solo living, behind the scenes we’re running Onely sort of like a marriage: we are a small team, bound together through common interests and goals, but also through logistics (shared copyrights and creative license, server bills, etc). (more…)
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