Onely Props: Being Single with Kids September 2, 2008
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Regular reader/commenter Shannon wrote a really interesting post on her blog, A Beautiful Dream, about being a single parent recently — a perspective that Christina and I aren’t able to represent and so must give “props” to when we see posts like this. She describes the challenge of being single when her son gets sick and the further challenges/complications she anticipates when she will give birth to a second child, a daughter, in the next few months. Here’s a teaser for what she has to say: (more…)
Pop Music, Scourge of the Onelies (part 715_e): I wuv my woogums September 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, We like. . ..Tags: Bobby McGee, pop music, single, Stevie Wonder, woogums
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Why are most pop songs about love? Because it’s a state fraught with emotion just begging to be released in song. Fine; I get that. But of all the pop songs about love, why are most of them about man-woman couple love? Because that’s the kind of love our world seems to place above all other kinds of love. Not fine; I don’t get that. (more…)
REVIEW: SINGLED OUT, by Bella DePaulo–Why are matrimaniacs matrimaniacs? August 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews, Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, discrimination, heteronormative, marriage mythology, prejudice, single mythology, Singled Out, singlism
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006
(This is an ongoing, serial review, continued from an earlier post)
In Singled Out, DePaulo theorizes that “matrimaniacs” (people who fixate on the importance of marriage and coupling) belittle single people for the following reason:
Naps. July 25, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: naps, single and happy
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Being Onely means coming home after working in the park (volunteer gig) for three hours on Saturday mornings and snarfing down food with the fridge door wide open and checking email or watching bad cable television while luxuriating in smelly, dirt-covered clothes before stepping into the shower and making it last as long or as short as you want – no one’s waiting and who cares if you run out of hot water – and then curling up back in bed to sleep for as long as you damn well please. — L
Heads Up! Documentary about Being Happy *and* Being Single in the Works… July 24, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, We like. . ..Tags: a single girl's manifesta, documentary, feministing, jerusha stewart, leslie talbot, seeking happily ever after, singular existence
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Feministing, one of the sites that Christina and I love and read daily, just posted today about a new documentary in the works, called Seeking Happily Ever After, which has as its subject — gasp — being happy and being single. Cool! Check out this link to read the post and to watch the trailer.
Also? A few more books that look worth reading are mentioned in the trailer, including Leslie Talbot’s Singular Existence and Jerusha Stewart’s A Single Girl’s Manifesta. I imagine you’ll be hearing more about these books here once we get our hands on them, but if any of you happen to have any info/thoughts/reactions about these books or others, we’d love to know!
– L
Book Review: Singled Out, by Bella DePaulo July 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews, Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, discrimination, heteronormative, marriage mythology, prejudice, single mythology, Singled Out, singlism
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006.
From Singled Out:
“Some components of singlism are built right into American laws and institutions, which means that neither coupled nor single people have any say about sustaining them. Take Social Security, for example. If you are a married person covered by Social Security and you die, your spouse can recieve your benefits. But if you are a single person who worked side by side with the married person at the same job for the same number of years and you die, no other adult can receive your benefits. Your money goes back into the system.”
How could I have never asked myself: Why? DePaulo explores why few people question our culture’s ingrained bias toward coupledom, and why we should start. (more…)
Living Single Blog: Check It Out!! July 12, 2008
Posted by Onely in Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, living single blog, rhetoric
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Christina and I were so excited to hear from Bella DePaulo (author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After [2006] and inventor of the term “singlism”) after Christina mentioned her in a recent post that we couldn’t wait to say more about DePaulo (our review of DePaulo’s book will be posted soon – as Christina says, “stay tuned”!). So, after a quick perusal of her personal Web site, we discovered that DePaulo also writes a weekly blog, Living Single, for Pyschology Today. (more…)
On the road again… July 2, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: 4th of july, being single, birthday, puppy, road trips, single and happy
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So I am preparing for one of my favorite things, a road trip that begins tomorrow (which means that I won’t be posting much, at least through the weekend). I’m heading from Louisville to St. Louis to celebrate my best friend’s birthday (HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAL!) and then on to Kansas City to visit my grandparents (somehow I managed to promise them a visit in July — and I learned of this “promise” through a family letter which they send every month… I’m not complaining, of course… Just saying!).
Anyway. My point being: Road trips are one of my very favorite things about being Onely. (more…)
Car Sauna June 27, 2008
Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Uncategorized, We like. . ..Tags: being single, car sauna, heat, single activities, single and happy
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Being Onely means that I can indulge my habits that give me great pleasure but distress a large chunk of the population. I like to climb in the car on a summer’s afternoon and not turn on the airconditioner. I drive along with windows closed, breathing the glass-cooked air. The sweat droplets well up under the bottom rims of my sunglasses. (more…)
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