Coming Home Onely September 18, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, We like. . ..Tags: homecoming, single, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart
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Often it’s nice to come home to a smiling face, right? Sure. But our mission here at Onely is to seek, find, and relish those moments when significant others do not apply.
When I was living with my then-boyfriend, when I came home from work he greeted me and wanted me to sit down on the couch and take a couple minutes to chat about our days. Sweet, right?
Yes, but I hated it. (more…)
BOOK REVIEW: Cheating at Solitaire, by Ally Carter September 17, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews.Tags: ally carter, cheating at solitaire, single
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Carter, Ally. Cheating at Solitaire. New York: Penguin, 2005
On the back of the book:
Self-help guru Julia James is so good at being single that she’s become famous for it–advising women that they don’t need a man to be happy. Then the unthinkable happens. Just when her newest book, 101 Ways to Cheat at Solitaire, is about to hit stores, a trumped-up piece of gossip linking her to a gorgeous actor hits the papers. Their pictures are splashed all over the tabloids, and now Julia’s credibility is about to hit rock bottom. But she isn’t going down without a fight. Unless, that is, the actor is going down with her.
I picked this book up because I wanted to see whether Julia ends up with the gorgeous actor. That’s what usually happens–the strong single woman is celebrated as long as in the end she ends up with a good man (Must Love Dogs, Hope Floats–oh we all know there are tons of examples out there, even if I can’t think of them right now). I was expecting Cheating at Solitaire would be different, because on the back of the book the author professes herself a proud singleton: (more…)
The Onely Gene? September 15, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: infidelity, Monogamy Gene, New Scientist, oxytocin, Priya Shetty, vasopressin
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According to this New Scientist article by Priya Shetty, there may be a Monogamy Gene. This got me thinking, could there be a Onely Gene? Is the Monogamy Gene related to the Onely Gene? Copious Readership, what do you think?
First we need to understand the Monogamy Gene: (more…)
Cat People and Dog People September 11, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: cat person, cats, couple, dog person, dogs, single, singlism
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The terms “Cat Person” and “Dog Person” refer to someone who gravitates to a particular animal, not someone who likes one animal and dislikes another. Similar with Single Person and Coupled Person. (more…)
Kick Ass, Brilliant Blog! Check US — And Professor, What If — Out! September 10, 2008
Posted by Onely in We like. . ..Tags: anti-normative, best bloggers EVER!, kick-ass brilliant blog, other awesome blogs!!, professor what if
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So Onely’s been up since mid- to late-June and we just received our first-ever blog award from one of our readers, Professor What If…? We here at Onely are so grateful for the recognition, especially from a writer as interesting, engaging, and questioning as Professor What If (who really is, I might add, a real-life professor and therefore all the more awesome!). Every post of hers begins with “What If…” and she’s constantly asking anti-normative questions that are both important and often times hard to articulate because they deal with issues that are very easy to take for granted (ie, normative!).
The most exciting thing about receiving this award is that we’re in good company — PWI was generous in her awards (which is the best kind of award-giving) and heading over to her site will give you 12 more sites that might are going to thrill you with their splendiforousness (and which will likely end up on OUR blogroll)! Very exciting, indeed — thanks Professor! 🙂
Great Onely Activities, part 91-3v: THE PASSENGER SEAT September 9, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: meat locker, passenger seat, road trip, single
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This week I drove five hours down to North Carolina, where my friend’s family had a beach house. I stopped in Williamsburg, Virginia on the way there and back, to see another friend. On the trip I realized the wonders of an empty passenger seat. (more…)
Great Onely Activities, Excerpt 777: Sitting in the Dark September 8, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: adventures alone, i love being single, Movies, road trips, sitting alone, spring, woody allen
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I just got home from going to see the newest Woody Allen movie, Cristina Vicky Barcelona (or is it Vicky Cristina Barcelona?!)… And I went ALONE. (more…)
Onely speeches: who swarms? September 7, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought.Tags: childfree, husbandfree, Obama, Sarah Palin, speech
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Copious Readership, help me out here:
If Barack Obama or Sarah Palin weren’t married with children, who would swarm out onto the stage to hug them after their big speeches? (more…)
Structures of Belief: It’s Damn Hard to Believe a Oneler! September 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity.Tags: abnormality, being single and happy, English 101, freshmen, lies
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So a friend of mine, Laura (who has commented here in the past), told me yesterday that she was leading her English 101 students in a discussion of an essay written by a woman who was single and happy being that way. Her students expressed disbelief: Yeah, right, they said. We don’t believe it. Then Laura referenced me, apparently, as a “real” example of such a phenomenon, and one of her students exclaimed, “Well she must be lying! Do you really believe that she doesn’t see people kissing and miss being in a relationship?” (more…)
REVIEW: Pride and Joy; The Lives And Passions of Women Without Children, by Terri Casey September 4, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews.Tags: childfree, Pride and Joy: The Lives and Passions of Women Without, Terri Casey, Women without Children
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Casey, Terri. Pride And Joy: The Lives And Passions Of Women Without Children. New York: Simon and Schuester, 2007
Casey presents inspiring descriptions of twenty-five women who have chosen not to have children. She describes the women’s hobbies, jobs, families, friends, pets, goals, dreams, and accomplishments so that their lives all sound as rich as–if not, dare I say it, richer than–the lives of women who did choose to have children. (more…)
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