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Onely Adventures! April 30, 2009

Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, Secret Lives of the Happily Single, single and happy.
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Hello copious readers,

Just wanted to write a quick hello to let ya’ll (we say ya’ll in Kentucky!) know that Christina’s going to be holding down the (hypothetical) fort for the next two weeks or so. I’m headed off on my first solo international adventure in a few short hours — to Great Britain! (more…)

Bad Onely Activities: Bumblebee Removal April 20, 2009

Posted by Onely in Bad Onely Activities, God-Idiot or Asshole?.
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As we’ve discussed in previous posts (such as this one), sometimes being Onely means having to resolve undesirable situations when there’s no one else around. We call these Bad Onely Activities.

Over the weekend, I came home late one night to find my dog, Kitty, paying an unusual amount of attention to the lamp that sits on my bedside table. Kitty (you can see her pic on the About Lisa and Christina tab) was so obsessed that she actually put her two front paws on top of the table to take a closer look at the lamp. (more…)

Insignificant others: A steppingstone to kids? April 10, 2009

Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Just Saying., Your Responses Requested!.
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Copious Readers, what does it mean when otherwise Onely people–who don’t mind being single–are looking for a significant other just because they want to have kids? Is this a good reason to look for a significant other? Currently, our world is set up so that it’s a lot harder to raise children if you don’t have a partner. But it’s wrong that our society is set up like that. So are these people supporting a shoddy system when they first get married before having kids? Should more people consider adopting as singles? Or given the current sub-par state of benefits systems for single parents, is that unfair to the children? (more…)

Some Like It Single: Special K March 20, 2009

Posted by Onely in single and happy, Singles Resource, Some Like It Single.
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Welcome to yet another installment in our new series, Some Like It Single, where we profile (relatively) small, independent blogs dedicated to exploring what it means to be “single” in American culture and, we hope, around the world.

This week, we’re featuring Special K, where you’re sure to receive a healthy dose of introspective, intriguing, and just plain good writing about what it means to be a single woman meandering through life around the age of 30. K describes, in highly readable and prosaic language, what it means to negotiate between what she wants (or thinks she wants) and what American culture seems to expect of her.

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Some Like It Single: Marrying Millennial March 13, 2009

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Welcome to the second installment in our new series, Some Like It Single, where we profile (relatively) small, independent blogs dedicated to exploring what it means to be “single” in American culture and, we hope, around the world. 

We like the blog Marrying Millenial because its author, Janelle Iwalani Maluenda, a twenty-one year old PR and advertising student at Chapman U in southern California, has taken on the entire whacked-out federally funded campaign to promote marriage with the vehemence of a verbal hurricane.   (more…)

Singles Resource: Home Buying March 12, 2009

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Dear Copious Readers,

The other day I was perusing some of Onely’s favorite singles blogs and came across a recent posting by Singletude that seems to provide an excellent starting point for anyone who is single and considering buying a home. Since I have no experience (or plans for) purchasing a home, I wanted to share the link.

Hope you’ll check it out!

Also, if you have suggestions for other singles resources/info you’d be interested in reading about on Onely, please do so. In the next week or two, I plan to revisit this post about eating healthy while single and hope to use some of your comments in combination with other research to provide additional info/resources. If this and other topics sound interesting/useful, we’d appreciate your feedback!

— L

Another Feel-Good Post: YOUR RESPONSES REQUESTED! February 26, 2009

Posted by Onely in single and happy, Your Responses Requested!.
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We’re fluffing pillows, people. I mean… As you may have noticed, we’ve been reorganizing, refreshing, and updating some of Onely’s links (scroll down and look to your right!) so as to more accurately reflect our ideological alignments and to highlight blogs dedicated to the practice of being single, as well as Web sites that provide (what we consider to be) important resources for single people. We’ve also tried to include, as often as possible, links to the blogs published by our regular readers (because we love you!).

We wanted to call your attention to this reorganization because we’d also like to solicit from you, Copious Readers, your responses and suggestions for anything we may have forgotten to include and/or missed altogether.We’d also appreciate your suggestions for singles resources (i.e., not blogs) that we have missed, particularly sites that are not designed for profit and are easily accessible to the general public. So, please — plug away!!!

In a related vein, we’ve also decided that we’re going to be profiling some of the blogs you see listed over in the side bar, so as to emphasize our desire for community and dialogue — two elements that are especially valuable when living Onely. We are so appreciative of the readership that has slowly but consistently been growing for us, we want to spread the love as much as possible!

We plan to limit our profiles to independent, non-profit blogs that deal specifically with being single — and are happy to hear any suggestions you have in this regard! We plan to post a new profile once every week or so, and we’ll notify whoever’s next, in case you want us to highlight anything in particular. We’re excited about this mini-project; what do you think?

Eagerly awaiting your responses,

— L & CC

Great Onelies in Real Time: Wang GuiYing January 13, 2009

Posted by Onely in As If!, Great Onelies in Real Time, Heteronormativity.
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A Chinese woman has decided to become unsingle after 107 years of Oneliness

She didn’t marry because she was afraid of marriage. When we are tempted to glorify the long, historic tradition of man-woman matrimony and disparage those of us who, for whatever reasons, are not participating in it, let’s also take a moment to listen to Wang Gui Ying’s story (Reuters cites the ChongQing Commercial Times): 

Born in southern Guizhou province the child of a salt merchant, Wang grew up watching her uncles and other men scold and beat their wives and often found her aunt crying in the woodshed after an attack, the paper said.

“All the married people around there lived like that. Getting married was too frightening,” she said of an era when Chinese women had few rights and low social standing.

For me, Wang Guiying makes an interesting contrast to the many people nowadays (at least in the west) who marry because they are afraid of being single (I know, I know, not everyone–but lots!).  Wang kept the family farm going until she was 74. Now that she’s finally beginning to slow down, she’s worried about being a burden to her nieces and nephews. (more…)

Stop the Madness! Onely’s Top Ten Reasons NOT to Get Married… January 9, 2009

Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, As If!, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity, single and happy.
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Hi everyone,

As I mentioned in my previous post about heteronormative wedding cards, part of my holiday madness included attending and participating in the wedding of one of my good friends. Every time I go to a wedding, I can’t help but count the many reasons why I never want to get married (and/or have a wedding). This one was no different — and because my friend IS a close friend who also happens to like to control everything in her life, the reasons I normally have against weddings seemed magnified in this case.

So, in the spirit of all of us who feel justified never wanting a wedding of our own, Onely presents … “Stop the Madness! Top Ten Reasons We Never Want to Get Married”: (more…)

A Love Letter, from One Oneler to Another October 9, 2008

Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Great Onely Activities.
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Dearest co-blogger Christina,

I just want to take a moment to THANK YOU for writing so many fantastic and funny posts for our awesome Onely blog. The ones you wrote this week were sharp and hilarious, as always. We’d been discussing the one about chemistry.com since you checked our inbox and read that bizarro email and immediately called me to sound the alarm. Your post made me laugh so hard (J is not for Jerk!!! HA) — you have such a skill with wit and acuity – I’ve told you before, and I’ll tell you again, I’m completely jealous (but in a good way)!

And I’m glad you decided to call out all those NUT-SUCKERS who keep googling nut-sucking and find your nut-sucking post instead of whatever it is they imagine they’ll find.

We’ve been writing together for about four months now, and I want you to know — I’m having so much fun! I am completely thrilled that you were up for making this crazy idea work. Most of all, of course, I am grateful for this partnership, which I feel has made our friendship even more interesting and satisfying than it already was.

🙂 Awwwwwww,

from your fave co-blogger,


Readers: Post love letters to your favorite single friends here!! (and no, I’m not implying that you should write to us, though you may, of course! ;))

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