Confused about Men? Stop It Stop It Stop It! July 23, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: confused about men, irony, nut sucking, Onely is awesome!, single, single and happy
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One of the thrills of having a WordPress-sponsored blog is that we can see how our readers come to find our blog. In other words, we can see what google searches end up “hitting” our site. One of the most frequent and popular searches so far? “Confused about men” [or some variation thereof]. Of course this is because that’s the title of one of our earlier posts, “Confused about Men? Get you a Manslation!” when we plugged another blog with a completely different focus (likely the one you’re looking for, we admit).
We find this eternally amusing, but just to throw everyone off we figured we’d write another post with a similar title so you’d end up here… We think you must have ended up here thanks to some higher powers, and with this in mind here’s what we advise:
Stop worrying about men! Read our amazing blog!!!
We hope you enjoy Onely! 🙂
L & C
p.s. we have the same message for all you people searching for “nut sucking” (you know who you are!), which tracks to this hilarious post by Christina. Don’t be shy… we want you to read our site too!!!
Cable TV, Scourge of the Onelys (installment 374x): What Not to Wear July 23, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, As If!, Food for Thought, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Singled Out.Tags: fashion, guilty pleasure, rhetoric, sophistication, tlc, what not to wear
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Since I often work at home, one of my guilty pleasures is to watch reruns of TLC’s show, What Not to Wear (the American version) when I take a break for lunch. Today, inspired by Bella DePaulo’s chapter on the myth that Every Single Person Is “Interested in Just One Thing – Getting Coupled,” I decided to take notes as I watched today’s episode, which focused on a 26-year-old single young woman named Sohni. I was curious about whether the show’s rhetoric would carry a pro-coupling spin or if maybe it would just encourage Sohni to look fabulous, no matter her motivation. After all, Sohni has a career, hopes to go to law school, and likes to party with her friends in Chicago… Isn’t that enough? (more…)
Friendship, Being Onely, and Being Female July 22, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: being single, feminism, friendship, place, single and happy, time, women
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In an earlier post, Christina wrote about how she had been “thinking about how so often we measure the passage of time in units of relationships, marriages, and children” and went on to point out some of the many other markers we could use to “measure” and “value” what we’ve done in our individual lives. This post keeps making its way back into my mind because one of the most important markers, for me, has been and continues to be the handful of close female friends I have made and kept even while moving from place to place over the last 10 years or so. (more…)
Alert! Alert! July 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: abortion, bush, feminism, reproductive health, women's rights
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Whether you love or hate Hillary Clinton, this kind of effort by the Bush administration affects everyone. Please read Clinton’s blog posting about a set of regulations set to put in place the labels all kinds of contraceptives – including birth control, IUDs, and emergency contraception – as “abortion.” There is a petition you can sign, too (at the end of the rhreality post):
Book Review: Singled Out, by Bella DePaulo July 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews, Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, discrimination, heteronormative, marriage mythology, prejudice, single mythology, Singled Out, singlism
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006.
From Singled Out:
“Some components of singlism are built right into American laws and institutions, which means that neither coupled nor single people have any say about sustaining them. Take Social Security, for example. If you are a married person covered by Social Security and you die, your spouse can recieve your benefits. But if you are a single person who worked side by side with the married person at the same job for the same number of years and you die, no other adult can receive your benefits. Your money goes back into the system.”
How could I have never asked myself: Why? DePaulo explores why few people question our culture’s ingrained bias toward coupledom, and why we should start. (more…)
Great Onely Activities, Installment 23b July 17, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.Tags: cheese, gouda, single activities, single and happy
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You know that pristine wedge of Gouda cheese in your fridge? Pull it out, bite off a piece. From the pointy end. Take another bite. From the rounded side. (Remove the wax first–just a strip slightly wider than your mouth.) Keep gnawing at the cheese until you get your calcium fix. Return to fridge shelf. Bonus points if teethmarks scour at least half of the cheese’s non-waxed surface area. Extra bonus points if the teethmarks are in shape of a grin.
Onely, Drugs, and Heteronormativity: A Lesson in Grammar. July 15, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: colds, drugs, grammar, Heteronormativity, irony, scrabble
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For the past week, I have been fighting an irritating cold (irritating because I *hate* feeling sick. OK I suppose this is not necessarily unique to me, but STILL). One of the symptoms of this cold has been a hacking cough, which only subsides in response to drugs (another thing I *hate*). Over the weekend (and not incidentally, under the influence of these drugs), I was updating some details of the Onely site and I started thinking – or perhaps obsessing is a better word – about the site’s subtitle, which reads: “A noun. An adjective. A better Scrabble word than Heteronormative.” (more…)
Defending the Onely July 13, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!.Tags: big 100.3, defending the caveman, great dates, heteronormative, secret couple club, single
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I turned on the radio and heard “couples all across America are in love with Defending the Caveman“.
That’s a comedic play about “the ways men and women relate”. (Both quotes from Defending the Caveman’s website). The radio station (Big 100.3) was promoting some ticket giveaway; the ad went on to say, “My husband and I loved it. . .” and “Great date show. . .” No input from any single audience members, or audience members who went with their friends. That struck me as interesting.
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