Confused about men? Get you a Manslation! July 2, 2008
Posted by Onely in Uncategorized.Tags: manslations, plug
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OK so this post could possibly seem contradictory, because obviously the Manslator is geared to help women “understand” men, and, well that seems pretty heteronormative doesn’t it? … But the honest truth is, I’m addicted to this site. It’s a little bit like candy. Not only is Jeff Mac (aka Manslator Extraordinaire) funny (hell, he’s supposed to be; he’s a freakin’ comedian), his responses – even to the wackiest situations – are consistently intelligent and respectful of the women who are … confused, for whatever reason. And I think that all of us – Onely or not – can admit to being confused about man-havior at times. So check Manslations out — there’s a new posting every week day. Plus he agreed to add Onely to his blog roll, kind person that he is. So welcome, Manslations readers! Hope you enjoy this site (and we also hope you’ll tell your friends/families/enemies about us)! — L
Speaking of bad dates… June 30, 2008
Posted by Onely in Dating, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought.Tags: i love being single
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I’m glad Christina went ahead and posted about what we have been discussing between ourselves; we are both ambivalent about whether or not it’s possible to describe the state of being Onely without framing it in relation to previous relationships/dating experiences. But the truth is, I think that Christina and I have both arrived at our current place, writing for this blog, because of the happiness we’ve discovered as a result of not being in relationships. In fact, I’d even argue that if it hadn’t been for being happy in our previous relationships, we wouldn’t understand how valuable it is to now be happy by ourselves today. For me personally, having previously been in a six-year relationship that took up most of my 20s, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be this happy being single agin. I think that my past (long-term, committed, and happy) relationship is fundamental to me being – and preferring to be – Onely today.
But none of this has seems to have anything to do with bad dates just yet, does it? (more…)
Blogging Pains June 30, 2008
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So, because this is a new blog, Lisa and I are still finding our footing. We have lots of topic ideas, but one problem we’ve stumbled against is how to address some of those topics while still maintaining a positive, proactive tone in line with the Onely philosophy of single-not-cranky. For example, we were wondering–how do we write about those bad dates that make us appreciate being Onely, without sounding bitter or enslaved by the framework of coupledom? Even if we can’t answer this question, we’re still going to write about dates gone wrong. Because let’s face it, the only thing more fun than a good date is telling the story of a bad one. So stay tuned.
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Book Review: Against Love June 29, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, book review, Food for Thought, Reviews.Tags: jerry maguire, Laura Kipnis, love, polemic, subversive thinking
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Kipnis, Laura. Against Love: A Polemic. New York: Pantheon, 2003.
As the title suggests, the book Against Love is meant to piss readers off, raise their hackles, question the previously unquestionable; Kipnis daringly tackles what she believes is the problem of our modern conceptions and (perhaps more importantly) expectations of love. In the pre-prologue (humorously entitled “Reader Advisory”), Kipnis asks, “To begin with, who would dream of being against love?” (3). (more…)
Car Sauna June 27, 2008
Posted by Onely in Everyday Happenings, Uncategorized, We like. . ..Tags: being single, car sauna, heat, single activities, single and happy
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Being Onely means that I can indulge my habits that give me great pleasure but distress a large chunk of the population. I like to climb in the car on a summer’s afternoon and not turn on the airconditioner. I drive along with windows closed, breathing the glass-cooked air. The sweat droplets well up under the bottom rims of my sunglasses. (more…)
Let’s Get This Over With As Quickly As Possible Day June 26, 2008
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My sister renamed Valentine’s day to “Let’s Get This Over With As Quickly As Possible Day”. (This is 50 percent my blog, so I can put the periods outside the quotes if I want.) Although many single people loathe LGTOWAQAP Day, once they become part of a couple, they usually commence with celebrating the previously vile holiday. But does doing this indicate acceptance of the idea that coupling up is an improvement, and, by extension, devalue one’s past single self? (more…)
Dictionary Definition: “One” June 22, 2008
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Food for thought…
Out of curiosity, I went to the ever-neutral (and online!) Oxford English Dictionary to see how “one” is defined, officially (I’ve skipped some of the more mundane ones). Enjoy! — L
Spurrious Rhetoric, continued January 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!.Tags: Abby o'reilly, denial, Dr. Pam Spurr, singlism, the daily mail, the f word
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As a follow-up to my Spurrious Rhetoric post, I feel compelled to acknowledge that buried in Dr. Pam Spurr’s singlist article is this one conciliatory, cover-your-ass sentence fragment: “Although, granted, there are some truly happy single women, the majority. . . ”
But at the beginning of her post she says she doesn’t believe that “any” single women are happy. So which is it? (more…)
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