In case you don’t believe that Singles are Stigmatized… August 7, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: institutional penalties, single, singlism, stigmatization
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Christina sent me a link to the following article: “Unmarried sisters lose inheritance tax fight.” It’s the UK but methinks similar penalties/rationale would be applied in the US.
— L
REVIEW: SINGLED OUT, by Bella DePaulo–Why are matrimaniacs matrimaniacs? August 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews, Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, discrimination, heteronormative, marriage mythology, prejudice, single mythology, Singled Out, singlism
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006
(This is an ongoing, serial review, continued from an earlier post)
In Singled Out, DePaulo theorizes that “matrimaniacs” (people who fixate on the importance of marriage and coupling) belittle single people for the following reason:
Book Review: Singled Out, by Bella DePaulo July 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Reviews, Singled Out, We like. . ..Tags: bella depaulo, discrimination, heteronormative, marriage mythology, prejudice, single mythology, Singled Out, singlism
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006.
From Singled Out:
“Some components of singlism are built right into American laws and institutions, which means that neither coupled nor single people have any say about sustaining them. Take Social Security, for example. If you are a married person covered by Social Security and you die, your spouse can recieve your benefits. But if you are a single person who worked side by side with the married person at the same job for the same number of years and you die, no other adult can receive your benefits. Your money goes back into the system.”
How could I have never asked myself: Why? DePaulo explores why few people question our culture’s ingrained bias toward coupledom, and why we should start. (more…)
Stay tuned: Singlism July 9, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: discrimination, singlism
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A quick Google search tells us that social psychologist Bella DePaulo coined the term “singlism”, meaning discrimination against singles. Did you know that singlism is not only an emotional component of our society, but is actually institutionalized? (more…)
Socializing with the Single: Even if I *am* Selfish. July 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, As If!, Everyday Happenings.Tags: being single is great, desire, having children, Heteronormativity, lectures on literature, nabokov, normalcy, selfish, single, singlism
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So I’m in St. Louis right now, and yesterday I spent the day hanging out with my best friend and her fiancee as we barbecued (and I’m not being flippant using that word – S [the fiancee] made ribs — good ones too. v. impressive!) and entertained M’s friends and family as they came over to celebrate the dual holiday of her birthday and independence day. I had a great time, and for a while I was stuck outside because I shielded myself from the biting bugs with some very strong-smelling bug spray, which M couldn’t stand the smell of inside – and because of it I got to chill with S while he attended the grill and M was inside preparing other food. (more…)
Spurrious Rhetoric, continued January 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!.Tags: Abby o'reilly, denial, Dr. Pam Spurr, singlism, the daily mail, the f word
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As a follow-up to my Spurrious Rhetoric post, I feel compelled to acknowledge that buried in Dr. Pam Spurr’s singlist article is this one conciliatory, cover-your-ass sentence fragment: “Although, granted, there are some truly happy single women, the majority. . . ”
But at the beginning of her post she says she doesn’t believe that “any” single women are happy. So which is it? (more…)
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Yay! More Reader Comments! (You’re great–so why are you single?) August 8, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: faulty premises, pathology, reader comment, singlism, still single
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Thanks, friendly readers, for your very interesting comments! In fact, there are a couple that we want to get back to, but first, the most recent one, posted by Cynthia in response to this post written by Christina (I’ve cut to the final portion of the comment, btw, because it seemed the most relevant):
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