Onely Props: Being Single with Kids September 2, 2008
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Regular reader/commenter Shannon wrote a really interesting post on her blog, A Beautiful Dream, about being a single parent recently — a perspective that Christina and I aren’t able to represent and so must give “props” to when we see posts like this. She describes the challenge of being single when her son gets sick and the further challenges/complications she anticipates when she will give birth to a second child, a daughter, in the next few months. Here’s a teaser for what she has to say: (more…)
Onely as Feminist Resistance July 26, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Essay review, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity, Reviews, Singled Out.Tags: adrienne rich, being single, capitalism, compulsory heterosexuality, feminism, friendships between women, lesbian existence, male control, resistance, single and happy
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I recently finished an essay by Adrienne Rich entitled “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence,” which is old in terms of publication date (1980) but new – brand new – to me. Rich’s primary argument is directed against feminist scholars who deny, ignore and/or marginalize the fact of lesbian existence, but she also mentions other “facts” of female existence – such as living alone and/or single – that have also been ignored in the face of what she calls “compulsory heterosexuality.” (more…)
Naps. July 25, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: naps, single and happy
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Being Onely means coming home after working in the park (volunteer gig) for three hours on Saturday mornings and snarfing down food with the fridge door wide open and checking email or watching bad cable television while luxuriating in smelly, dirt-covered clothes before stepping into the shower and making it last as long or as short as you want – no one’s waiting and who cares if you run out of hot water – and then curling up back in bed to sleep for as long as you damn well please. — L
Confused about Men? Stop It Stop It Stop It! July 23, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: confused about men, irony, nut sucking, Onely is awesome!, single, single and happy
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One of the thrills of having a WordPress-sponsored blog is that we can see how our readers come to find our blog. In other words, we can see what google searches end up “hitting” our site. One of the most frequent and popular searches so far? “Confused about men” [or some variation thereof]. Of course this is because that’s the title of one of our earlier posts, “Confused about Men? Get you a Manslation!” when we plugged another blog with a completely different focus (likely the one you’re looking for, we admit).
We find this eternally amusing, but just to throw everyone off we figured we’d write another post with a similar title so you’d end up here… We think you must have ended up here thanks to some higher powers, and with this in mind here’s what we advise:
Stop worrying about men! Read our amazing blog!!!
We hope you enjoy Onely! 🙂
L & C
p.s. we have the same message for all you people searching for “nut sucking” (you know who you are!), which tracks to this hilarious post by Christina. Don’t be shy… we want you to read our site too!!!
Friendship, Being Onely, and Being Female July 22, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: being single, feminism, friendship, place, single and happy, time, women
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In an earlier post, Christina wrote about how she had been “thinking about how so often we measure the passage of time in units of relationships, marriages, and children” and went on to point out some of the many other markers we could use to “measure” and “value” what we’ve done in our individual lives. This post keeps making its way back into my mind because one of the most important markers, for me, has been and continues to be the handful of close female friends I have made and kept even while moving from place to place over the last 10 years or so. (more…)
Great Onely Activities, Installment 23b July 17, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.Tags: cheese, gouda, single activities, single and happy
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You know that pristine wedge of Gouda cheese in your fridge? Pull it out, bite off a piece. From the pointy end. Take another bite. From the rounded side. (Remove the wax first–just a strip slightly wider than your mouth.) Keep gnawing at the cheese until you get your calcium fix. Return to fridge shelf. Bonus points if teethmarks scour at least half of the cheese’s non-waxed surface area. Extra bonus points if the teethmarks are in shape of a grin.
Onely and Nut-sucking July 6, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities.Tags: cashews, single activities, single and happy
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I think Lisa intends to write something about how being Onely doesn’t mean not ever being lonely, or not ever considering a relationship, or not ever thinking it might be nice to find someone you truly connect with. True, true. But here is one of the many things that being Onely *does* mean: Onely means that you can open a jar of cashews and suck the salt off each nut one by one and put them back in the jar, and no one will call you on it or ask why the *f* you’re being so gross (it’s call a salt tooth–deal with it). –CC
On the road again… July 2, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities, We like. . ..Tags: 4th of july, being single, birthday, puppy, road trips, single and happy
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So I am preparing for one of my favorite things, a road trip that begins tomorrow (which means that I won’t be posting much, at least through the weekend). I’m heading from Louisville to St. Louis to celebrate my best friend’s birthday (HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAL!) and then on to Kansas City to visit my grandparents (somehow I managed to promise them a visit in July — and I learned of this “promise” through a family letter which they send every month… I’m not complaining, of course… Just saying!).
Anyway. My point being: Road trips are one of my very favorite things about being Onely. (more…)
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