Structures of Belief: It’s Damn Hard to Believe a Oneler! September 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity.Tags: abnormality, being single and happy, English 101, freshmen, lies
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So a friend of mine, Laura (who has commented here in the past), told me yesterday that she was leading her English 101 students in a discussion of an essay written by a woman who was single and happy being that way. Her students expressed disbelief: Yeah, right, they said. We don’t believe it. Then Laura referenced me, apparently, as a “real” example of such a phenomenon, and one of her students exclaimed, “Well she must be lying! Do you really believe that she doesn’t see people kissing and miss being in a relationship?” (more…)
Onely Props: Being Single with Kids September 2, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, We like. . ..Tags: kudos, other perspectives on being Onely, props, single and happy, single parents
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Regular reader/commenter Shannon wrote a really interesting post on her blog, A Beautiful Dream, about being a single parent recently — a perspective that Christina and I aren’t able to represent and so must give “props” to when we see posts like this. She describes the challenge of being single when her son gets sick and the further challenges/complications she anticipates when she will give birth to a second child, a daughter, in the next few months. Here’s a teaser for what she has to say: (more…)
Pop Music, Scourge of the Onelies (part 715_e): I wuv my woogums September 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, We like. . ..Tags: Bobby McGee, pop music, single, Stevie Wonder, woogums
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Why are most pop songs about love? Because it’s a state fraught with emotion just begging to be released in song. Fine; I get that. But of all the pop songs about love, why are most of them about man-woman couple love? Because that’s the kind of love our world seems to place above all other kinds of love. Not fine; I don’t get that. (more…)
Where’s your boyfriend? When are you getting married? YOUR RESPONSES REQUESTED August 31, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: pee-filled puppy, rudeness, The Question, when are you getting married?
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Copious Readership, how would YOU have responded to these rude questions?
“So when are YOU getting married?” I got this question from a woman I had met five minutes earlier, after she heard that our mutual friend was engaged. (more…)
Onely: by Chance or by Choice? Christina’s Perspective August 29, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Food for Thought, I want to....Tags: adventures, being alone, breakups, choosing singlehood, exploring, hobie cat
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To answer my own question, I’m Onely by chance AND by choice!
I don’t have a lot of CHANCES to meet men. For years, chronic health problems have forced me to spend a lot of time lying down. If I don’t get a four-hour nap on Saturday and a four-hour nap on Sunday, I will likely have trouble functioning during the subsequent workweek. I can’t drink alcohol. I can’t do cardio sports unless I have days of recovery time. I can only go out one night a weekend unless I want to risk consequences. That’s all chance. BUT: (more…)
Lisa’s Perspective: Onely by Chance or by Choice? August 27, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: adventures, being alone, breakups, choosing singlehood, Dating, exploring
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Christina posted a thought-provoking question last night: Are you/we/I Onely by Chance or by Choice? Here’s my response: (more…)
Onely: By Chance or By Choice? August 26, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: chance, choice, single
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Am I Onely because I choose to be by myself, or am I Onely because circumstances have forced singlehood on me? That is, am I getting what I want, or am I wanting what I’ve got? Would I change my single status? Could I? Copious Readership, what do you think? (more…)
Books, Excess, and Being Onely August 22, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Great Onely Activities.Tags: Books, death, i love being single, identity, library fees, life of the mind, overdue books, passion, reading, thinking
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So I just stumbled across an article which describes a 20-year-old who was arrested for having unpaid library fines! (poor girl, she doesn’t deserve to be punishedfor borrowing books!!!) What does this have to do with Being Onely, you might ask? Well, not much really. Except I have a problem. It’s called I-must-have-books. I mean, I must have them, and after a summer dedicated mostly to reading and thinking (only one month of teaching!), I currently have a ton of library books here in my apartment. They are piled in small, haphazard groups on my coffee table, hidden under loose papers all over my desk, stacked neatly on shelves in my living room — and of course let’s not forget the books I own, which take up lots of shelf space in the hallway outside of my apartment (seriously, the shelves are so big that there was no space for them — or the books I own — inside of this one-bedroom apartment!). (more…)
Are Onelies Just in Denial? Dick comments. August 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: bella depaulo, denial, dick, ism, Living Single, single, singlism
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Submitted by Dick on May 4, 2008 – 7:54pm.You seem to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about the ‘stigma’ of being single. Could it be that you are repressing your desire to connect with someone? I can hardly believe that single people are so repressed. Just another ‘ism’ to distract people from real problems.
Onely and Overweight August 19, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: cocktail party, leptin, obese, overweight, racism, sexism, single, singlism, weightism
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Although I am not overweight right now, I take some medicine that can make me overweight, given the right circumstances.
So I got to thinking about the similarities between singlism and weightism. They are the last “isms” that won’t get you shunned in a cocktail party. Racism and sexism are looked on with disgust. (more…)
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