ONELIES GONE WILD: Onely does Costa Rica December 15, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities, Honorary Onely Awards.Tags: continental airlines, costa rica, germany, mar y selva ecolodge
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I’m going to Costa Rica. Why? Not because everyone tells me how gorgeous it is. Not because of the wealth of ecosystems. Not because of the pelagic snorkelling. Not because the Ticos are friendly. Not because I’ve never been to Central America. No. I’m going because two summers ago, my boyfriend and I bought flights to Germany. He did the booking, then he dumped me and uninvited me from the trip, leaving me single and saddled with an 800 dollar credit with Continental airlines. Months ticked by, and I couldn’t decide what to do with the ticket. I had poor health and no great motivation to go anywhere, especially because it seemed that all the Continental flights from DC to anywhere had to first make a jig-jag through Newark, New Jersey. Not a big deal, but it irritated me, as things will when you’re irritable. Meanwhile, the ticket was nearing expiration. (more…)
Great Onelies in History: Sarah and Angelina Grimké December 12, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onelies in History, Profiles, We like. . ..Tags: abolition, angelina grimke, anti-racist, first feminist, literacy, pro-woman, quakers, rhetoric, sarah grimke, sisters, social activism, suffrage
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Sarah Grimké
Last week we announced a new series: Great Onelies in History, featuring Frances Willard. Luckily for our copious readership, I’m finishing up a semester’s graduate course in the history of rhetoric, and so I’ve got two more important rhetorical figures for us to celebrate! This week, we’re happy to introduce:
Sarah and Angelina Grimké, Great Onelies in History!
1792-1873
Famous for: Advocating for women’s rights, suffrage, and the abolition of slavery. Angelina Grimké happened to be married, but much of her activism work occurred while she was single — we think she deserves Honorary Oneler status!
DID YOU KNOW? (Coming home Onely) December 8, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought.Tags: cats, coming home alone, singlism, surprise party
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Welome to the latest (and by that I mean the first) installment in Onely’s DID YOU KNOW? series.
DID YOU KNOW that no one likes coming home to an empty house?
Yes! It’s true! This was according to an E-vite I received, to a surprise party for my friend who was returning from an extended business trip. “No one likes coming home to an empty house,” the E-vite said, reminding us that my friend’s wife would be out of town during his return, and encouraging us to show up instead so that there would be people waiting in his house for him when he came home from the airport. I was a tad perplexed, because there are few things I like *more* than coming home to an empty house. As much as I love my friends, I also love walking into my foyer, smelling the unbreathed, unstirred air, and putting my bags down in the middle of the rug and either lying on the floor or making toast and feeling the grime of travel roll off me (After a 24 hour trip, doesn’t your grime roll? Or should I see a doctor?).
Copious Readers, if you were coming home from a long flight, would you want to have friends jump out at you from behind the couch, or not? Put your answer in POLL A:
I know it’s dangerous to put a cat joke on an singles blog; that’s just asking to perpetuate the stereotype. (more…)
UnOnely Pleasures: Country Music December 3, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, We like. . ..Tags: alan jackson, country music, lonestar, progressive, richochet, sexist, single, toby keith
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It’s ok to like something even if it’s unOnely! Some of my best friends are unOnely. And some of my favorite music is country. I have three country music stations programmed into my car radio. Although independent-minded female singers with progressive attitudes are edging aside the good ol’ boys, the genre is still steeped in old-school heteronormative rhetoric. And I find myself rocking out to even the worst of it. Ignoring for a moment the philosophical issue of whether one can actually “rock out” to country music, here are some catchy tunes with lyrics you don’t want to listen to too closely: (more…)
Great Onelies in History: Frances Willard December 1, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onelies in History, Profiles.Tags: 19th century, frances willard, rhetoric, WCTU, women's christian temperance union, women's rights
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We’re happy to announce a new series: Great Onelies in History, which we’re sure all you history buffs will enjoy. In this series, we’ll feature people who made a difference in the world and just happened to be single while doing it!
To inaugurate our series, we’re happy to introduce:
Frances Willard, Great Oneler in History!
1839-1898
Famous for: Advocating for women’s rights and suffrage, especially through her leadership of the WCTU (Women’s Christian Temperance Union)
Onely Thanks! November 26, 2008
Posted by Onely in We like. . ..Tags: family, giving thanks, nut sucking, pumpkin pies, turkey day, we love being single
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- Our families (immediate and extended)
- Our friends — who we may as well call family
- Our readers — you! — for keeping us interesting and interested, and for proving to us that there *are* others out there happy to be single! 🙂
- Our cats and dog (Hi Kitty!)
- Our homes, which we come back to after long days and extended trips, empty to our relief.
- Pumpkin pies. All to ourselves. Good any time of the year!
- All the friends who offer their families as substitutes for our own when we’re far away, working through the holiday to get a Ph.D. (OK, that’s Lisa’s special one)
- Nut-sucking!!!! hahahahahahaha (that’s Christina’s special one, and Lisa wrote it)
Readers — what else are you thankful for?
SEEPage November 24, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: bella depaulo, foreign service, personal community, Singled Out
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For all you writers out there!! Here Bella DePaulo admits that in an early draft of her opus Singled Out, before she heard about Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl‘s study of different kinds of personal communities, she had a “clunky phrase” to describe significant others who form the nexus of their partner’s social life (per Spencer and Pahl, that would be a “partner-based personal community”). The term DePaulo used to describe that kind of significant other was “Sex and Everything Else Person,” aka a “SEEPie”. She said that readers of the draft hated the term, so she scrapped it. But I like it! I wonder how our Copious Readership feels about Seepies. Either way, it just goes to show you what a freakin’ headache writing is.
I was raised in a foreign service family. This means that my mom, dad, sister, and I travelled around together, one little square unit. This setup feeds into the partner-based personal community paradigm. (more…)
Film Review: The Aviatrix November 20, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, film review, Reviews.Tags: cancer, happy ending, single and sick, superhero, the aviatrix
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OH no no no no no no no
I started this video with high hopes. A young woman with cancer draws herself as a body-armour-clad superhero and imagines fighting another woman in bright red body armour, who represents her cancer. Their fights, in a desert, rocky, otherworldly landscape, are interspersed with scenes from the woman’s life in her little suburban cottage. There is true-to-life tension with her mother, a true-to-life assholish doctor.
And then there’s the sensitive, funny lawn mowing guy. (more…)
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