Guilty Pleasures: It’s not Onely, but you can’t help it! August 18, 2008
Posted by Onely in music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews.Tags: feministing.com, guilty pleasures, lovin, scourge of the Onelies, trick pony
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One of Lisa’s and my favorite blogs, feministing.com, solicits Guilty Pleasures from its readers. According to feministing blogger Miriam, guilty pleasures are “those pop culture things that you love, even though deep down inside you know that they might conflict with your feminist values”.
I got to thinking about this while writing our recent post about Trick Pony’s song “Just what I do when I can’t get no lovin'”. I have it in my Ipod and think it’s a catchy tune and, yes, when I first heard it I laughed. Yet I found the premise disturbing enough to post on it–
Who else has pop culture things that conflict with their Onely values, but which they can’t help liking?
–CC
Scourge of the Onelies, part 56.9-c: “What I do when I can’t get no lovin'” August 18, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews.Tags: heteronormative, lovin, masterpiece, scourge of the Onelies, single, trick pony
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Today my Ipod turned up this song by Trick Pony, in which Jesse James, Orville Wright, and Picasso each say they excelled in their field because “it’s just what I do when I can’t get no lovin'”. As if painting masterpieces or inventing the airplane is all well and good, but what those guys really wanted–and, by implication, should have been pursuing–is lovin’ (read: heteronormative relationship). (more…)
Internet Drivel, Scourge of the Onelys! (Part 78e) August 17, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Singled Out.Tags: being single, guilt, Heteronormativity, i'm happy and you're not, jealousy, MSN, pop culture, singles table, weddings
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I just came across this article in my morning internet-browse, entitled “10 Tips for Defusing Jealousy once You’re Engaged” (because engaged people have it soooo hard! sorry… ahem, I of course would have no idea how “difficult” it must be to be engaged, because I’ve never been). Read on and pay attention to the embedded assumption that it’s generally single people who are going to be jealous, and it’s all because they are single and wish they weren’t: (more…)
Onely at the Doctor August 16, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Everyday Happenings, Singled Out.Tags: being single, shots!, value of a life
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Last week when I went to the doctor to make sure I didn’t have strep and after the doc agreed that my throat looked “like it hurt” (duh!), she tried to convince me to get updated on my shots. I was (irrationally, I’ll admit) reluctant, especially because I figured I was in enough pain as it is, but she tried to convince me anyway. Here’s how the conversation transpired: (more…)
Sick and Onely August 12, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: being single, nasty colds, odwalla, sex and the city episode, single and sick
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I haven’t posted for a few days because I have been sick and miserable (thanks C for taking up the slack!), and when I emailed Christina to let her know that I wouldn’t be posting yesterday, she reminded me of the Sex and the City episode where Samantha is sick with the flu and, in C’s words, “bemoans not having anyone (man) to take care of her.” C also noted that the episode is “the ONLY time I ever saw Samantha bemoan not having a ‘relationship.'” In my current state of nastiness, I’m almost tempted to agree. (more…)
Sleeping With the Rosetta Stone August 9, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities.Tags: arabic, chinese, in bed, indonesian, languages, rosetta stone, single, sleep disorder, sleep ritual, thai
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Since the advent of energy saving bulbs, I have taken to leaving my bedside lamp on all night–because I sleep better with the light on. (Really.) But what helps me the most with my chronic inability to fall asleep is The Rosetta Stone language learning software.
I put my old laptop next to my pillow, lie on my side, and sweep my index finger over the mouse pad, (more…)
Yay! More Reader Comments! (You’re great–so why are you single?) August 8, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Everyday Happenings, Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: faulty premises, pathology, reader comment, singlism, still single
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Thanks, friendly readers, for your very interesting comments! In fact, there are a couple that we want to get back to, but first, the most recent one, posted by Cynthia in response to this post written by Christina (I’ve cut to the final portion of the comment, btw, because it seemed the most relevant):
It’s not too clear to me though which one bothers you more? Being judged or being asked why still single?
Onely.Org 
Food for Thought! SINGLED OUT: Beware! Your Work Won’t Love You Back (An Academic’s Take) August 13, 2008
Posted by Onely in book review, Food for Thought, Reviews, Singled Out.Tags: academia, academic work, being married in academia, being single, bella depaulo, career choices, childless, reader comments, single in academia, your work won't love you back
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DePaulo, Bella. Singled Out, How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2006
(This is an ongoing exploration of Singled Out, continued from an earlier post)
In Chapter 7 of Singled Out, DePaulo debunks the myth that if single women spend too much time focused on a career and/or in school, they will miss out on all the ‘good’ partners out there, and that being career-minded means “slogging through ‘the trenches of corporate solitude'” instead of “gleefully and triumphantly crashing through the glass ceiling” (136). (more…)
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