Onely: By Chance or By Choice? August 26, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: chance, choice, single
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Am I Onely because I choose to be by myself, or am I Onely because circumstances have forced singlehood on me? That is, am I getting what I want, or am I wanting what I’ve got? Would I change my single status? Could I? Copious Readership, what do you think? (more…)
Are Onelies Just in Denial? Dick comments. August 21, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: bella depaulo, denial, dick, ism, Living Single, single, singlism
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Submitted by Dick on May 4, 2008 – 7:54pm.You seem to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about the ‘stigma’ of being single. Could it be that you are repressing your desire to connect with someone? I can hardly believe that single people are so repressed. Just another ‘ism’ to distract people from real problems.
Onely and Overweight August 19, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought.Tags: cocktail party, leptin, obese, overweight, racism, sexism, single, singlism, weightism
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Although I am not overweight right now, I take some medicine that can make me overweight, given the right circumstances.
So I got to thinking about the similarities between singlism and weightism. They are the last “isms” that won’t get you shunned in a cocktail party. Racism and sexism are looked on with disgust. (more…)
Scourge of the Onelies, part 56.9-c: “What I do when I can’t get no lovin'” August 18, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, music review, Pop Culture: Scourge of the Onelys, Reviews.Tags: heteronormative, lovin, masterpiece, scourge of the Onelies, single, trick pony
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Today my Ipod turned up this song by Trick Pony, in which Jesse James, Orville Wright, and Picasso each say they excelled in their field because “it’s just what I do when I can’t get no lovin'”. As if painting masterpieces or inventing the airplane is all well and good, but what those guys really wanted–and, by implication, should have been pursuing–is lovin’ (read: heteronormative relationship). (more…)
Sleeping With the Rosetta Stone August 9, 2008
Posted by Onely in Great Onely Activities.Tags: arabic, chinese, in bed, indonesian, languages, rosetta stone, single, sleep disorder, sleep ritual, thai
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Since the advent of energy saving bulbs, I have taken to leaving my bedside lamp on all night–because I sleep better with the light on. (Really.) But what helps me the most with my chronic inability to fall asleep is The Rosetta Stone language learning software.
I put my old laptop next to my pillow, lie on my side, and sweep my index finger over the mouse pad, (more…)
In case you don’t believe that Singles are Stigmatized… August 7, 2008
Posted by Onely in Food for Thought, Singled Out.Tags: institutional penalties, single, singlism, stigmatization
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Christina sent me a link to the following article: “Unmarried sisters lose inheritance tax fight.” It’s the UK but methinks similar penalties/rationale would be applied in the US.
— L
“So why are you still single?” August 6, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!, Food for Thought, Heteronormativity.Tags: good intentions, pathologization of singles, sickness, single, singlehood
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People usually intend to be helpful and friendly when they ask:
“You’re so (complimentary adjective); so why are you still single?”
As if singlehood were a gross, drippy nose that could and should be cured by a swallow of Sudafed. (more…)
Confused about Men? Stop It Stop It Stop It! July 23, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, Dating, Food for Thought.Tags: confused about men, irony, nut sucking, Onely is awesome!, single, single and happy
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One of the thrills of having a WordPress-sponsored blog is that we can see how our readers come to find our blog. In other words, we can see what google searches end up “hitting” our site. One of the most frequent and popular searches so far? “Confused about men” [or some variation thereof]. Of course this is because that’s the title of one of our earlier posts, “Confused about Men? Get you a Manslation!” when we plugged another blog with a completely different focus (likely the one you’re looking for, we admit).
We find this eternally amusing, but just to throw everyone off we figured we’d write another post with a similar title so you’d end up here… We think you must have ended up here thanks to some higher powers, and with this in mind here’s what we advise:
Stop worrying about men! Read our amazing blog!!!
We hope you enjoy Onely! 🙂
L & C
p.s. we have the same message for all you people searching for “nut sucking” (you know who you are!), which tracks to this hilarious post by Christina. Don’t be shy… we want you to read our site too!!!
Defending the Onely July 13, 2008
Posted by Onely in As If!.Tags: big 100.3, defending the caveman, great dates, heteronormative, secret couple club, single
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I turned on the radio and heard “couples all across America are in love with Defending the Caveman“.
That’s a comedic play about “the ways men and women relate”. (Both quotes from Defending the Caveman’s website). The radio station (Big 100.3) was promoting some ticket giveaway; the ad went on to say, “My husband and I loved it. . .” and “Great date show. . .” No input from any single audience members, or audience members who went with their friends. That struck me as interesting.
Socializing with the Single: Even if I *am* Selfish. July 5, 2008
Posted by Onely in "Against Love"...?, As If!, Everyday Happenings.Tags: being single is great, desire, having children, Heteronormativity, lectures on literature, nabokov, normalcy, selfish, single, singlism
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So I’m in St. Louis right now, and yesterday I spent the day hanging out with my best friend and her fiancee as we barbecued (and I’m not being flippant using that word – S [the fiancee] made ribs — good ones too. v. impressive!) and entertained M’s friends and family as they came over to celebrate the dual holiday of her birthday and independence day. I had a great time, and for a while I was stuck outside because I shielded myself from the biting bugs with some very strong-smelling bug spray, which M couldn’t stand the smell of inside – and because of it I got to chill with S while he attended the grill and M was inside preparing other food. (more…)
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